"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dumb mistakes on the phone

challice

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So I’m sitting at home this past Tuesday doing absolutely nothing so I decide to call an HB8 who I know wants me and lives maybe about 15 minutes away.

Anyway, we spoke for about 10 minutes and I ask what she's doing right now. She says that she's just chillin and about to sleep because she has to wakeup early in the morning to run some errands and that all of her roommates (4 people) went out for the night.

I then proceed to be a dumbass and say; okay well I’ll let you go to sleep then :eek: . After I got off the phone, I had the feeling of jumping in front of traffic after saying that. I think my problem was that I broke the unwritten rule of being extremely distracted when I was on the phone with her, I was cooking.

If I was a DJ, I know I should have worked my way over to her place but the damage is done. I don’t know if I’m making this out worse than it really is but I had to type something since it’s been in my head all day.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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red6y2

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I think you may be making it out to be a bit worse than it really is. I would have tried to set something up (like a date for later), but it really doesn't sound too bad.
 

milkman

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Originally posted by challice
So I’m sitting at home this past Tuesday doing absolutely nothing so I decide to call an HB8
What was the purpose of your call?

If you only wanted some talk cause you feeled bored, of course it then okay to let her go sleeping. No problem to call a girl and just say hello and talk a bit. There is no obligation of always arrange something when you call.
 

challice

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Yeah, I will say the purpose was just to say hi so as you said, it was probably okay.
 

Anirak

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Yeah man, relax. If you know she wants you, I doubt that you "letting" her go to sleep is going to hurt anything. Even if she didn't "want" you, I can't see it being a big mistake or anything.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Freeman

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Originally posted by challice
So I’m sitting at home this past Tuesday doing absolutely nothing so I decide to call an HB8 who I know wants me and lives maybe about 15 minutes away.

Anyway, we spoke for about 10 minutes and I ask what she's doing right now. She says that she's just chillin and about to sleep because she has to wakeup early in the morning to run some errands and that all of her roommates (4 people) went out for the night.

I then proceed to be a dumbass and say; okay well I’ll let you go to sleep then :eek: . After I got off the phone, I had the feeling of jumping in front of traffic after saying that. I think my problem was that I broke the unwritten rule of being extremely distracted when I was on the phone with her, I was cooking.

If I was a DJ, I know I should have worked my way over to her place but the damage is done. I don’t know if I’m making this out worse than it really is but I had to type something since it’s been in my head all day.

Hates phones I'm more of a in person type of guy---
 

steroidsrule

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true when i talk on the phone with girls too much i end up in the friend zone... i keep it 100% personal now unless its an emergency...also gives me some mystery
 

TxCowboy

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its all good bud ... ur in the clear ... in fact, its good to do a few of those phone calls every now and then so ur on the h0's mind .... especially if your gaming other girls in the mean time ...

- l8rs
 

S-lemond

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i think you may be over reacting a bit my friend! yes you didnt get ne that night! but really no harm done..besides her seeing u as alil boring, but that can be easily fixed!
 

penkitten

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she probally didnt even realize what you said.
people do that , its easily forgotten and wont be brought up.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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