Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Dumb mistakes on the phone

challice

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So I’m sitting at home this past Tuesday doing absolutely nothing so I decide to call an HB8 who I know wants me and lives maybe about 15 minutes away.

Anyway, we spoke for about 10 minutes and I ask what she's doing right now. She says that she's just chillin and about to sleep because she has to wakeup early in the morning to run some errands and that all of her roommates (4 people) went out for the night.

I then proceed to be a dumbass and say; okay well I’ll let you go to sleep then :eek: . After I got off the phone, I had the feeling of jumping in front of traffic after saying that. I think my problem was that I broke the unwritten rule of being extremely distracted when I was on the phone with her, I was cooking.

If I was a DJ, I know I should have worked my way over to her place but the damage is done. I don’t know if I’m making this out worse than it really is but I had to type something since it’s been in my head all day.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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red6y2

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I think you may be making it out to be a bit worse than it really is. I would have tried to set something up (like a date for later), but it really doesn't sound too bad.
 

milkman

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Originally posted by challice
So I’m sitting at home this past Tuesday doing absolutely nothing so I decide to call an HB8
What was the purpose of your call?

If you only wanted some talk cause you feeled bored, of course it then okay to let her go sleeping. No problem to call a girl and just say hello and talk a bit. There is no obligation of always arrange something when you call.
 

challice

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Yeah, I will say the purpose was just to say hi so as you said, it was probably okay.
 

Anirak

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Yeah man, relax. If you know she wants you, I doubt that you "letting" her go to sleep is going to hurt anything. Even if she didn't "want" you, I can't see it being a big mistake or anything.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Freeman

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Originally posted by challice
So I’m sitting at home this past Tuesday doing absolutely nothing so I decide to call an HB8 who I know wants me and lives maybe about 15 minutes away.

Anyway, we spoke for about 10 minutes and I ask what she's doing right now. She says that she's just chillin and about to sleep because she has to wakeup early in the morning to run some errands and that all of her roommates (4 people) went out for the night.

I then proceed to be a dumbass and say; okay well I’ll let you go to sleep then :eek: . After I got off the phone, I had the feeling of jumping in front of traffic after saying that. I think my problem was that I broke the unwritten rule of being extremely distracted when I was on the phone with her, I was cooking.

If I was a DJ, I know I should have worked my way over to her place but the damage is done. I don’t know if I’m making this out worse than it really is but I had to type something since it’s been in my head all day.

Hates phones I'm more of a in person type of guy---
 

steroidsrule

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true when i talk on the phone with girls too much i end up in the friend zone... i keep it 100% personal now unless its an emergency...also gives me some mystery
 

TxCowboy

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its all good bud ... ur in the clear ... in fact, its good to do a few of those phone calls every now and then so ur on the h0's mind .... especially if your gaming other girls in the mean time ...

- l8rs
 

S-lemond

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i think you may be over reacting a bit my friend! yes you didnt get ne that night! but really no harm done..besides her seeing u as alil boring, but that can be easily fixed!
 

penkitten

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she probally didnt even realize what you said.
people do that , its easily forgotten and wont be brought up.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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