"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The LadyKiller

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I started talking to a HB at work. She smiles at me a lot, laughs at my jokes and is always upbeat. I am still getting to know her better before I do anything; the first time we met, she was a bit of a b*tch towards me, so that gives me some pause. I didn't talk to her for awhile after that ,and now she is suddenly very nice.

However, I noticed she will not confirm/add me on Facebook. :confused: We are generally all FB friends at work, so my sending the request was no big deal at all.

Facebook clearly isn't a huge deal, I just find it...curious. She's not selective with who to friend - we have a load of "mutual friends" from work, some of whom I'm pretty sure she doesn't know or barely knows.

Problem or sh*t test?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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zorg198

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Better of not be friends with her on FB if you like her , keep you out of her radar outside of work area.
 

Zerro

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It's a stupid game, I've had chicks at work do the same thing to me and I simply stop giving them attention entirely after a while.
 

SgtSplacker

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She thinks you like her and she is playing games with your affection because she is seeking personal validation for some reason. She's testing you to see if you still like her so she can feel better about herself. She has no interest in you really because she has not even cared to check your facebook to see if maybe you have some other ladies in the picture.

My Suggestion: Neg her when she leaves herself open and does suggestive stuff to you. She's going to do things that only serve to try to string you on. Call her out on it, in a very friendly way. And do NOT go out of your way to be nice to her, let her say hi first!
 

The LadyKiller

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Appreciate the responses. What you say makes sense. After her act of b*tchiness, I stopped trying to talk to her for awhile. Over the past two weeks, she started the nice/outgoing routine. Not sure what her motive is, but this facebook "game" suggests a hidden agenda.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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