Paper Crane
Banned
- Joined
- Mar 6, 2021
- Messages
- 267
- Reaction score
- 258
- Age
- 30
I noticed alot of dudes give themselves false excuses as to why certain things in their life aren't going well or if they're not performing well.
My dude does this alot, he says **** like "man i didnt get enough sleep", "man its the artificial food coloring in the food i eat", "its because its too humid out", "its because my parents raised me like..."
He seems to have an excuse for everything when he's just not doing well in something.
But these are all false excuses. Why? Everyone doesn't do 100% perfect all the time. He has some kind of perfectionist issue and when he doesn't perform amazing or great or good, he feels the need to explain himself to others. It's like he's just so used to being judged, criticized or talked down that caused this "never good enough" mindset that when he's not doing good, he feels bad, guilty, or feels the need to explain himself.
I noticed the same thing in nice guys.. When something goes wrong or something doesn't go their way, they tend to blame themselves instead of think that it doesn't have to be anyones fault and that sometimes things don't fit together like a puzzle.
Theses same guys have some crazy successes, accomplishments and at times their confidence is insanely high. But they discount themselves so mcuh that they can never relish on the amazing moments that would skyrocket anyone elses confidence.
My dude does this alot, he says **** like "man i didnt get enough sleep", "man its the artificial food coloring in the food i eat", "its because its too humid out", "its because my parents raised me like..."
He seems to have an excuse for everything when he's just not doing well in something.
But these are all false excuses. Why? Everyone doesn't do 100% perfect all the time. He has some kind of perfectionist issue and when he doesn't perform amazing or great or good, he feels the need to explain himself to others. It's like he's just so used to being judged, criticized or talked down that caused this "never good enough" mindset that when he's not doing good, he feels bad, guilty, or feels the need to explain himself.
I noticed the same thing in nice guys.. When something goes wrong or something doesn't go their way, they tend to blame themselves instead of think that it doesn't have to be anyones fault and that sometimes things don't fit together like a puzzle.
Theses same guys have some crazy successes, accomplishments and at times their confidence is insanely high. But they discount themselves so mcuh that they can never relish on the amazing moments that would skyrocket anyone elses confidence.
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