I thought I'd gotten over AA and all that bullsh*t. After all I approached near 20 girls one night at the mall. But coming back to school, it's still here. Now, when it comes to girls I already know, the interaction is easy. But if I can't find an interesting subject to talk about, I suck at talking to girls I don't know well or at all. Here's the situation, for some reason, the football game was Thursday this week, so it was tonight. Fastforward, I'm in the stands fourth quarter and Amanda is sitting in the same RIGHT below me, close enough a distance I could tap her shoulder and talk to her. But alas, I didn't because I was too afraid she wouldn't be interested in what I had to say. PLUS she was talking with this close guy friend of hers named Jamie. I don't know WHY I just can't get the balls to approach Amanda. I've been rejected several times by women, but for some reason, I'm more afraid of getting rejected by this woman. I know I'm a high value guy and all, but I just can't approach her. I'm getting tired of this, I think tommorow and I'm just going to go "Fvck it", go up to her and her friends and just talk. If she doesn't like me I'll live because there are several other girls who do. I got to stop caring so much about what to say. She either likes my fun personality or she doesn't. Tommorow, I got to get my balls back and approach her no matter the situation.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dude, I'm such a ****ing coward.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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AA never really goes away 100% - It's just like stage anxiety - Sienfeld still gets it, cris rock, everyone. AA fuels you with energy. One you direct it. it's fine. This is perfectly normal. However, dont let the doubt and fear control the outcome. Accept the AA, and proceed anyway. It's easy.
Also, I wouldnt have approached at that time either. Find the right time and place, and AA will be diminished.
Also, I wouldnt have approached at that time either. Find the right time and place, and AA will be diminished.
TALK IS OVER RATED...............kino and fake it til u make it. Thinking of clever things to say is a waste of time. Dont complicate it.......say hey wahts up.........how u doing...........the actually listen to what she says.......never project too much interest. Be cool you are in school.
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Master Don Juan
what the hell is AA? Alcoholics anonymous?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Master Don Juan
DUDE YOU GOTTA BE ****ING KIDDIN ME
APPROACH ANXIETY?
In other words you don't have any balls?
Since when has being a punk ass b!tch a disease?
APPROACH ANXIETY?
In other words you don't have any balls?
Since when has being a punk ass b!tch a disease?
That's one element of your problem right there. You're consciously defining yourself by what others think of you. Granted, it's hard to fully stop caring even if you TRY to ignore others' opinions, but YOU sir are not even trying to stop caring.If she doesn't like me I'll live because there are several other girls who do.
That said, I'm no expert at approaching myself. I get anxiety a lot of the time -- and not just about approaching girls -- often for totally random and nonsensical reasons. (eg: some phone calls, sometimes talking in class, just talking to strangers or even my own friends at times) I think it's a psychological problem I'll never fully cure. But you definitely can't cure approach anxiety just by approaching one string of girls. You need to make approaching a HABIT.
As do I.