I thought I'd gotten over AA and all that bullsh*t. After all I approached near 20 girls one night at the mall. But coming back to school, it's still here. Now, when it comes to girls I already know, the interaction is easy. But if I can't find an interesting subject to talk about, I suck at talking to girls I don't know well or at all. Here's the situation, for some reason, the football game was Thursday this week, so it was tonight. Fastforward, I'm in the stands fourth quarter and Amanda is sitting in the same RIGHT below me, close enough a distance I could tap her shoulder and talk to her. But alas, I didn't because I was too afraid she wouldn't be interested in what I had to say. PLUS she was talking with this close guy friend of hers named Jamie. I don't know WHY I just can't get the balls to approach Amanda. I've been rejected several times by women, but for some reason, I'm more afraid of getting rejected by this woman. I know I'm a high value guy and all, but I just can't approach her. I'm getting tired of this, I think tommorow and I'm just going to go "Fvck it", go up to her and her friends and just talk. If she doesn't like me I'll live because there are several other girls who do. I got to stop caring so much about what to say. She either likes my fun personality or she doesn't. Tommorow, I got to get my balls back and approach her no matter the situation.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dude, I'm such a ****ing coward.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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AA never really goes away 100% - It's just like stage anxiety - Sienfeld still gets it, cris rock, everyone. AA fuels you with energy. One you direct it. it's fine. This is perfectly normal. However, dont let the doubt and fear control the outcome. Accept the AA, and proceed anyway. It's easy.
Also, I wouldnt have approached at that time either. Find the right time and place, and AA will be diminished.
Also, I wouldnt have approached at that time either. Find the right time and place, and AA will be diminished.
TALK IS OVER RATED...............kino and fake it til u make it. Thinking of clever things to say is a waste of time. Dont complicate it.......say hey wahts up.........how u doing...........the actually listen to what she says.......never project too much interest. Be cool you are in school.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
what the hell is AA? Alcoholics anonymous?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
DUDE YOU GOTTA BE ****ING KIDDIN ME
APPROACH ANXIETY?
In other words you don't have any balls?
Since when has being a punk ass b!tch a disease?
APPROACH ANXIETY?
In other words you don't have any balls?
Since when has being a punk ass b!tch a disease?
That's one element of your problem right there. You're consciously defining yourself by what others think of you. Granted, it's hard to fully stop caring even if you TRY to ignore others' opinions, but YOU sir are not even trying to stop caring.If she doesn't like me I'll live because there are several other girls who do.
That said, I'm no expert at approaching myself. I get anxiety a lot of the time -- and not just about approaching girls -- often for totally random and nonsensical reasons. (eg: some phone calls, sometimes talking in class, just talking to strangers or even my own friends at times) I think it's a psychological problem I'll never fully cure. But you definitely can't cure approach anxiety just by approaching one string of girls. You need to make approaching a HABIT.
As do I.