"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dual invitation to the same Christmas Party

grayclif

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I was invited to the same Christmas Party by two different women I'm dating. I declined since I had previous plans but what if I had accepted. Both ladies are way into me so I don't think they had a plan B.

My question is how would you guys handle seeing a plate while on a date with another, especially since I was asked by the other lady as well. Yeah, I get the non exclusive thing but feelings would certainly be hurt.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You tell them you'll meet them there. Show less affection to both of them, but divide your time equally between the two. You'll be walking on eggshells all night.

You're better off declining.
 

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Dear Grayclif,
The First Commandment for prospective Plate spinners is They shalt not meet...happens now and then
however clever you are,just duck out the back Jack!
 

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I would avoid it. I don't want the negative vibes from jealous women and white knight crusaders.

I would, however, invite both of them to stop by my place after they're done with the party. Whoever accepts first gets the c0ck.
Bold, I like it.

Indeed it is unnecessary to complicate things for yourself. Instead make it so that you can only win.

Profit .
 

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Since you were busy and declined both.... I'd message one and tell her to come over after their party, Then message the other one and "make it up to her" on a different night.....
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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grayclif

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Since you were busy and declined both.... I'd message one and tell her to come over after their party, Then message the other one and "make it up to her" on a different night.....
What I was wondering was if I committed to the first date request and the then was asked to attend the same party by another plate. I would either have to lie and cancel with plate one or tough it out. Seems an awkward position to be placed in.
 
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