"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Drunk girl who once ljbf'ed me

Backbencher

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...Tried to kiss me tonight.

She was drunk out of her mind, lying on the ground at an outdoor party with a girl friend of hers.

We're good friends but she ljbf'ed me about a year ago. I never tried anything since then. But tonight when she saw me she suddenly started being overtly affectionate, kept on touching me an even tried to kiss me. And she kept calling me "my love". But I was kind of embarassed as she was extremely drunk + her girl friend was lying right next to her + another prospect of mine was waiting for me a few meters away. So basically I didn't take advantage of it and left. I probably would've regretted it if I did something and so would she.

Yet I feel like I passed on my one and only chance with her. What would you have done? In your experience, do those occasions occur again after a first time? Is there any way to induce such an episode without the alcool? Would it be mean of me to take advantage of her in such a situation?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Bat

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The real question you should be asking yourself and us is:

Why do I (you) still care about getting laid by this girl?

She LJBF'd a year ago. Didn't you spin plates during this time? Didn't you get laid during this time? Didn't you hook up with other chicks at this time? What about that prospect who was right there? Don't you care about hooking up with her?

Don't be fooled, she was just drunk. She probably still thinks of you as a cuddly nice friend who won't take advantage of her and will treat her like a princess. That ship has sailed. Plus, it's just ONE girl...out of what a thousand that you must've at least seen during this time.

Making a thread about your old one-itis still shows that you're not over her. Go out there and spin plates. That's the only way to cure and salvage this situation you're in.

NEXT!
 

Prodigy746

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She was DRUNK...thread over.

Even if you were an ******* and wanted to take advantage of her while she was drunk , do you think her friend would let your do it?? I think not
 

betterthandead

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I used to hang around girls for friendship, then as I thought deeper they serve very little purpose. It's much better having them as activity friends, there is nothing wrong with that but socializing with males is much better.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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