"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dropping fatpercentage whilst maintaining muscle mass

SayWhat

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Hi all

I've been lifting weights for over a month now, although the progress is minimal, I do notice some difference.
As a result of more eating for the muscle mass, I also gained a couple of fatpercentages. At the moment I'm at 17%, which I really don't like.

I know it's not possible to loose fat and gain muscle mass at the same time, but my priority is now is to get that percentage down to 12-13%. What can I do best to maintain the (little) muscle mass I already have? Eat the amount of calories I need, keep training and start running 3 times a week? Or is something else better?

Thanks!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok thanks, will read it later this day.

Breakfast: oatmeal with milk
Noon: 4 slices of bread with chicken or something else
15h: banana and a healthy biscuit
Dinner: whatever mom has made
Evening: 30g of peanuts and 2 oranges

This seems not many, but I made a schematic and it showed that this was perfect for me to gain weight in accordance to the amount of calories I need a day.
 

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What is your height and weight? It doesn't look lke you are eating enough protein, which is why your results haven't been spectacular. When an un-trained person starts going to the gym, they will generally gain muscle mass and lose fat (noob gains/honeymoon period).
 

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5ft and 7,7inches
138,6lbs

What can I change about my diet for the best results? I've read so much about the importance of a diet but also read so many different stuff. Milk, no milk, lots of fat,...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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First of all, what are your goals, what are you trying to achieve?
Are you lifting weights to get stronger or to look more like a bodybuilder?

If your going for more of a physique I'd recommend eating cleaner foods and possibly add conditioning work at the end of your training or do some GPP (General Physical Prep.) on your off days.
 

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wtf told you that you can't lose fat and gain muscle at the same time? they are full of it. Get Tim ferris;s book from your public library, THE FOUR HOUR BODY, and learn to eat mostly protein for breakfast, within 1/2 hour of waking.
 

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Dont forget the genetic component. Do you know your body type (ectomorph, mesomorph, endomorph).

Improvements can be made but your genetics will determine a lot in the outcome.

case in point - my friend is very thin - an ectomorph. He has trained at a gym, med/heavy weights and eaten well for 8 months. He now has well defined muscle tone, and an extra 'layer' of muscle. A huge difference, but he's not body builder 'big' you know?

Have a look here to see what body type you are. Keep non essential fats and sugar out of your diet as much as you can, have good solid rest periods, and make the most of what you have!

http://www.muscleandstrength.com/articles/body-types-ectomorph-mesomorph-endomorph.html
 

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I read it on numerous sites it was impossible to loose fat and gain muscle at the same time. Glad it is possible :).

My goals are to 'bodybuild', not like the big ones, but just a beachbody will suffice.
 

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your body has no switch that says;'. ok, don't gain muscle", just beacuse you are losing fat. :) You lose muscle tissue if you don't USE it. /The body has what's called a "fat-sparing" mechanism/ preference, it will use up muscle instead of fat, if you do too much aerobic stuff, and don't also do the weights/machines/whole body build thing.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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