"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Droping girl because of past relationship...

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We went out today, all was great until I looked at her phone and it was full of sms and calls from this other guy. Worse gets worse and I found out it is her ex (with whom she was together 2 years) and she met me one week after he left her.

So I feel like a pupet, being played and sh!t just for her to feel better after being dumped...

She begs and me to get back together but its hard. She told me she loved me many times before but its hard to think that she loved another guy when she was sleeping with me.

Anyways I need some opinions from people with a clear mind, should I give her another chance or is it not worth it?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Taviii said:
So I feel like a pupet, being played and sh!t just for her to feel better after being dumped...
Stop thinking you are the victim here because you are not. You are fvcking her right now and not this guy. Her past belong to the past and every chick you will meet has probably done the deed and fell for other men, so learn to live with it.

Although the least this girl could have done is block his number.
 

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Stop thinking you are the victim here because you are not. You are fvcking her right now and not this guy. Her past belong to the past and every chick you will meet has probably done the deed and fell for other men, so learn to live with it.
All true, however some girls have the decency to break contact with the ex. Personally I would hope the girl would do that. It shows class and respect.
 

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DJDamage said:
Stop thinking you are the victim here because you are not. You are fvcking her right now and not this guy. Her past belong to the past and every chick you will meet has probably done the deed and fell for other men, so learn to live with it.

Although the least this girl could have done is block his number.
Ahhh, she calls and sends sms to him back, thats whats bothering.
 

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Her ex is looking for a booty call and shes considering giving it to him.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Beware of becoming the Rebound Guy! :nono:
 

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I looked at her phone and it was full of sms and calls from this other guy. Worse gets worse and I found out it is her ex
you fucked up stupid !!! why are you looking through shit that doesn't belong to you ?? You made the right decision, unless that girl you were seeing has lesbian tendencies she probably wouldn't be interested for long in a pussy (like you).

p.s. in the future go with the flow and stop worrying about being used, be thankful your enjoying your time with her now because it may or may not last. The memories you have of people are the good ones not the "I wonder if i'm being used" memories.

Ahhh, she calls and sends sms to him back, thats whats bothering.
mind your own bizness pussy. and stop being such a bitch ass sneak, looking through her phone listening to her conversations.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Beware of becoming the Rebound Guy! :nono:
At the time I didnt knew I was rebound material...

Her ex is looking for a booty call and shes considering giving it to him.
Might be, good point.
 

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At the time I didnt knew I was rebound material....
You're saying that there weren't any signs that she was just coming out of a relationship? You mean that these actions of hers just started happenings out of the blue?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She sounds like one of those girls who can't stand being alone. She was in a 2 year relationship and only a week after he left her she's already with another guy.
 

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Why would you drop her?

That's JUST as bad as her going back to her EX. Either way, you get no play.

Ignorance is bliss...(for the most part). You looked for trouble and you found it.

Perhaps this is a confidence issue. You couldn't let well enough alone, you had to validate that she liked you by snooping through her phone just to make sure.

.........
 

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DJDamage said:
Enjoy the sex, go date other women and don't worry about it.
Thats what I'm doing, she just left from my place. Can't wait to meet my other chick tomorrow.

Thanks for the helpful advice guys!
 

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Taviii said:
Thats what I'm doing, she just left from my place. Can't wait to meet my other chick tomorrow.

Thanks for the helpful advice guys!
Its good advice to take. You're way to involved with all this drama when you should be getting yours. good luck to ya
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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