"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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best advice.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:the values of our culture are toxic, reject them.
youngmack
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So if a girl says she dosent like you all of a sudden out of the blue.... But displays actions that she do, i should not believe her right? ...or she could just be playing mind games with me.DonJuanabe said:Do not let anything a woman says get you down. ******** is not based on facts or reality, it is solely on how the woman feels at that instant in time, her emotions. It isn't rational or objective, it just is. Try to accept it as just that and don't argue or debate with her over it -- doing so will only create further tension. Do not get caught up in the drama of whatever maelstrom is swirling around in her head.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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youngmack
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cstrife32 said:Escalate, escalate, escalate. Kino is extremely important. Don't be all creepy and just touch her a lot for no reason, but touch her when telling a joke, or congratulating her, etc. See how she responds, if she doesn't do anything or pull back chances are she doesn't mind and likes it. If she responds positively or reciprocates then keep escalating. And if you're thinking of making a move, just go for it, worst case you get rejected, but trust me, rejection is way better than regret. There's a thread either in this or the tips forum called dicarlos escalation ladder. I'd look it up for a good guide on how to escalate kino wise if you're wondering. Also maintain eye contact as much as possible.
Hmm yeah something i have to work on, theres been so many missed opportunities because i was too scared to escalate not tryna come off as a creep or pervert. But i got this next time ima mentally palm my nuts and escalate.
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Before you can go on a date with them you gotta at least text them first for a little..since we're in a technological age. I do remain a mystery by not texting my gf and i let her initiate text contact and we barely text because i also text my other plates here and there,but everytime me and my plates or gf are texting (which is done rarely) i create boring convos..
Like i dont come off as fun or interesting. I followed the guidelines by asking open ended questions and digging her further but after all those initial "getting to know each other" questions and convos. Nothing comes to my mind that i can talk about to make her love texting me or to increase interest level. Im too boring
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.