"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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1. Follow your passions in life. Work isn't work if you enjoy what you are doing.
2. Never let a woman get in the way of your goals. If she doesn't support you in what you are doing, she doesn't belong in your life.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do not let anything a woman says get you down. ******** is not based on facts or reality, it is solely on how the woman feels at that instant in time, her emotions. It isn't rational or objective, it just is. Try to accept it as just that and don't argue or debate with her over it -- doing so will only create further tension. Do not get caught up in the drama of whatever maelstrom is swirling around in her head.
 

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DonJuanabe said:
Do not let anything a woman says get you down. ******** is not based on facts or reality, it is solely on how the woman feels at that instant in time, her emotions. It isn't rational or objective, it just is. Try to accept it as just that and don't argue or debate with her over it -- doing so will only create further tension. Do not get caught up in the drama of whatever maelstrom is swirling around in her head.
So if a girl says she dosent like you all of a sudden out of the blue.... But displays actions that she do, i should not believe her right? ...or she could just be playing mind games with me.
 

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It's not that you shouldn't believe her -- it's that you shouldn't care. Once you don't care the mind games don't affect you because your mind is not there to be f*cked with. If her actions are positive then go with the flow. If they are negative go with that flow -- which would be to next her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I hate to sound insulting, but women should be treated like children back in the old days: seen and not heard. Once you internalize that it becomes much simpler.
 

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Escalate, escalate, escalate. Kino is extremely important. Don't be all creepy and just touch her a lot for no reason, but touch her when telling a joke, or congratulating her, etc. See how she responds, if she doesn't do anything or pull back chances are she doesn't mind and likes it. If she responds positively or reciprocates then keep escalating. And if you're thinking of making a move, just go for it, worst case you get rejected, but trust me, rejection is way better than regret. There's a thread either in this or the tips forum called dicarlos escalation ladder. I'd look it up for a good guide on how to escalate kino wise if you're wondering. Also maintain eye contact as much as possible.
 

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cstrife32 said:
Escalate, escalate, escalate. Kino is extremely important. Don't be all creepy and just touch her a lot for no reason, but touch her when telling a joke, or congratulating her, etc. See how she responds, if she doesn't do anything or pull back chances are she doesn't mind and likes it. If she responds positively or reciprocates then keep escalating. And if you're thinking of making a move, just go for it, worst case you get rejected, but trust me, rejection is way better than regret. There's a thread either in this or the tips forum called dicarlos escalation ladder. I'd look it up for a good guide on how to escalate kino wise if you're wondering. Also maintain eye contact as much as possible.

Hmm yeah something i have to work on, theres been so many missed opportunities because i was too scared to escalate not tryna come off as a creep or pervert. But i got this next time ima mentally palm my nuts and escalate.
 

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Another thing....when dealing with a girlfriend/texting game... I dont know why but i just cant seem to have good convos . I know you guys would say that texting should be used to get your point across and make dates but these days with girls my age texting is EVERYTHING.

Before you can go on a date with them you gotta at least text them first for a little..since we're in a technological age. I do remain a mystery by not texting my gf and i let her initiate text contact and we barely text because i also text my other plates here and there,but everytime me and my plates or gf are texting (which is done rarely) i create boring convos..

Like i dont come off as fun or interesting. I followed the guidelines by asking open ended questions and digging her further but after all those initial "getting to know each other" questions and convos. Nothing comes to my mind that i can talk about to make her love texting me or to increase interest level. Im too boring
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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