Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Driving the topic toword sex

TomN

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I know a good way to make sure you don't end up in the friends zone is to talk about sex with the girl, but what is the best way to steer the topic toward sex/relationships, what are some good questions to do this? When are questions like "what is your number one sex fantasy" or "what do you look for in a boyfriend" appropriate? A few hours after meeting a chick and talking with her, a few days, what? I don't want to give off an aura of desperation or something like that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HuuBinh

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you can steer the topic of sex in any normal conversation. In order to do that, you want to turn one or several of her sentences into sexual innuendos, once she understands what your trying to convey, the sex topics just naturally follows. If you want an example, just give me any situation, i can definately show you how to steer that toward sex talk.
 

DJ_Dork

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I would do what HUUBINH suggests and not what TomN suggests. Only girls can bring up sexual topics frankly - guys should use innuendos/sex jokes.
 

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Yup yup. Just bring it up. If you want to be smooth don't be all, "Hey, do you like doggystyle?" haha.

I always start by bringing up a funny or crazy story in my life that somehow has to do with sex.

Like the time my ex gf and I got caught doing the do in a park by a jogger.

I'll bring up something about nature and we'll shoot the shiet and that will get onto the topic of parks. Then I'll start talking about how one time I fell off the playground equipment cause I was stupid and did a crazy dare. If she doesn't volunteer a story about something stupid she's done I'll ask if she ever fell off the swings or some shiet. A few minutes later I'll be all, "Oh man, here's a pretty crazy story. It was embarrassing as hell at the time but now it's just funny. Anyway, my ex gf and I decided to go to the park one day cause it was nice outside...".

Easy peasy. And that's just one of the many, many, ways to bring it up. But ya know what? If you're really having a great time with the woman, playing it cool, making her chase you, etc, SHE WILL usually bring up the topic of sex first.
 

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Originally posted by HuuBinh
If you want an example, just give me any situation, i can definately show you how to steer that toward sex talk.
Discussing your mother's occupation. :p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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