"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Driving license and confidence

Arnzy

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So, I'm 18 and in my country you have to be 18 to get a driving license.
This week I had driving exam and due to snow and ice, I didn't pass the exam, it was really close.
I can do it again and I have new exam in January, but it really hurts my confidence.

I'm in LTR and it actually isn't a issue.
We both live really close to each other, also we live in small city, so there isn't really anywhere to go. There is good public transport, also her older brothers drives for her all the time and I have friends and family members who drive for me.
I tried to talk with her about this, made jokes about that. She laughed and told me that so far life has been beautiful and still is beautiful, so why you stress about it, you will get it anyway soon.

Yes, I know, I/we don't need it right now, it really won't change anything. It's winter and we have nowhere to go and we can always use trains to go to bigger city. It's more comfortable and cheaper.

I think about it all the time and it kills my confidence. Guys, what do you think?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dude99

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So, I'm 18 and in my country you have to be 18 to get a driving license.
This week I had driving exam and due to snow and ice, I didn't pass the exam, it was really close.
I can do it again and I have new exam in January, but it really hurts my confidence.

I'm in LTR and it actually isn't a issue.
We both live really close to each other, also we live in small city, so there isn't really anywhere to go. There is good public transport, also her older brothers drives for her all the time and I have friends and family members who drive for me.
I tried to talk with her about this, made jokes about that. She laughed and told me that so far life has been beautiful and still is beautiful, so why you stress about it, you will get it anyway soon.

Yes, I know, I/we don't need it right now, it really won't change anything. It's winter and we have nowhere to go and we can always use trains to go to bigger city. It's more comfortable and cheaper.

I think about it all the time and it kills my confidence. Guys, what do you think?
I think you should re-take the test in January.
 

Billtx49

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Your girl has the right attitude. Your driving test failure is small chips compared to what you will come across through out your life.
Enjoy success, learn from failure.
 
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Jetleg

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Sorry i only read it roughly.

You are 18 and in a LTR? WTF? what a waste, honestly. get your license and start f*cking em b1tches.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Arnzy

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Sorry i only read it roughly.

You are 18 and in a LTR? WTF? what a waste, honestly. get your license and start f*cking em b1tches.
What a waste? I f*ck her 2-3 times a week. She doesn't ask me anything, I can still do whatever I want. There are not many options in my area, next year I will move to another city. LTR isn't always a bad thing. It gives me everything I want at the moment.
 

Bible_Belt

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Knowing how to drive on snow and ice is a valuable skill that most licensed drivers don't have. There are a lot of driving skills that are not covered on exams.
 
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