"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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BlackDragon

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Would you drive 3 hours to meet a chick from myspace. I been talking to this chick for a month by email, phone texting, and phone. Right now im station in germany, so going to see her would kind of be like a trip becuase i haven been to east germany yet. We plan on getting a hotel and hang out and go clubbing for the weekend. I know i'll lose my virginity if i go but I dont know. 3 hours is a long drive.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You are out of your mind if you drive more than 40 minutes MAXIMUM to meet a girl. It's too risky, suppose she doesn't show up or a no-show, do you have any idea how much gas, money, and energy you are risking on a potential no-show. Plus you look even more the desperate and she'll lose respect for you and say 'who is this pathetic loser driving 3 hours to see me', no matter what nice things she said before.

But then again, if you are on vacation, and there are sites to see, why not? Go for a reason APART from just seeing this girl, so in case there is a no-show, you at least feel you got something out of it, and that's what counts.
 

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If it was me, I wouldn't. I don't trust long-distance relationships. Don't take what I say too seriously, though. I just hope you aren't too attached to her.
 

Distant Light

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Hell no lol, and what makes it even worst its from myspace. Why don't you sarge in Germnay? I personally wouldn't do it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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qweretyuiopas

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For just her : Nope.
If you go to check out the sites and have fun even if she is there or not : Go ahead, who knows you may meet up with another chick.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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3 hours is nothing. You are in a foreign country, have fun and explore it. Don't drive 3 hours for her, do it for the adventure. And of course have a backup plan. If she flakes out, find a hostel to stay at and meet up with some other young people and have a good time.
 

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If you are doing to see her and only her you are being needy.
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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Yeah, i agree with what has been said, dont driver there just for her, especialy because it could be a no-show. But rearnage your plans so they you are nearer to her. Now you can see her but still have a good time if she is a no-show.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do you know that you'll lose your virginity? If you really do, then, go for it. But I'm guessing you don't know
 

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BlackDragon's balls are owned by this chick who lives 3 hours away. I would never date a chick that's more than an hour's drive from me. Even an hour is too long, we better have good conversations over the phone if it's an hour's drive. An hour's worth of driving cost $10 for an average car with today's gas prices. With this 3hr chick, that's $30 ONE WAY. PLUS you gotta do all that driving.
 

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my boys are going with me too. We are going clubbin ova there. We are meeting at a different place at here friend apartment. so its only going to be a 2 hour drive. But still, it too far normally but im just bored of the local area and want to travel out. I doubt we have sex becuase I always back off becuase im a little worried...dont know why. I was brought up sex before marriage was bad. anyway, im going to have fun and meet this chick too. She said she will treat me right and show me a good time. Russian Chicks :)
 

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If your going with some mates you can have a good time whether she shows or not. I would go. 3 hrs is fvck all. I drive 1 hr to work every day and thats a doddle. I wouldnt go without some kind of backup plan thow....If you drive 3 hrs and she is a no show then your left in the sh!t.

Sex before marridge is the best kind. You have to have sex with a girl before you marry her. Otherwise your just being silly!


Sarge On!
 

everywomanshero

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Internet chicks are easy to bang, but 3 hours is kind of extreme.

I personally would not do it, no. There is always some risk she will flake, too.
If I were a virgin, I don't know what I'd do. It's been over 10 years since I had to think about that.

It also depends on if you'd like to go to that town anyway. If the answer is yes then you have nothing to loose even if she flakes, and if she doesn't all the better.

In general, these aren't things you should be doing. Instead, I'd recommend meeting chicks close to you or who live in places you want to visit anyway. The chicks are just a bonus that way. I wouldn't start running 3 hours in every direction just to meet chicks.

Don't get attached either. You can't have a relationship with a woman 3 hours away. That's just setting yourself up for lots of annoyingly long drives and calls.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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