"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BlackDragon

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Would you drive 3 hours to meet a chick from myspace. I been talking to this chick for a month by email, phone texting, and phone. Right now im station in germany, so going to see her would kind of be like a trip becuase i haven been to east germany yet. We plan on getting a hotel and hang out and go clubbing for the weekend. I know i'll lose my virginity if i go but I dont know. 3 hours is a long drive.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You are out of your mind if you drive more than 40 minutes MAXIMUM to meet a girl. It's too risky, suppose she doesn't show up or a no-show, do you have any idea how much gas, money, and energy you are risking on a potential no-show. Plus you look even more the desperate and she'll lose respect for you and say 'who is this pathetic loser driving 3 hours to see me', no matter what nice things she said before.

But then again, if you are on vacation, and there are sites to see, why not? Go for a reason APART from just seeing this girl, so in case there is a no-show, you at least feel you got something out of it, and that's what counts.
 

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If it was me, I wouldn't. I don't trust long-distance relationships. Don't take what I say too seriously, though. I just hope you aren't too attached to her.
 

Distant Light

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Hell no lol, and what makes it even worst its from myspace. Why don't you sarge in Germnay? I personally wouldn't do it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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qweretyuiopas

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For just her : Nope.
If you go to check out the sites and have fun even if she is there or not : Go ahead, who knows you may meet up with another chick.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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3 hours is nothing. You are in a foreign country, have fun and explore it. Don't drive 3 hours for her, do it for the adventure. And of course have a backup plan. If she flakes out, find a hostel to stay at and meet up with some other young people and have a good time.
 

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If you are doing to see her and only her you are being needy.
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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Yeah, i agree with what has been said, dont driver there just for her, especialy because it could be a no-show. But rearnage your plans so they you are nearer to her. Now you can see her but still have a good time if she is a no-show.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SamePendo

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Do you know that you'll lose your virginity? If you really do, then, go for it. But I'm guessing you don't know
 

Hitman10000

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BlackDragon's balls are owned by this chick who lives 3 hours away. I would never date a chick that's more than an hour's drive from me. Even an hour is too long, we better have good conversations over the phone if it's an hour's drive. An hour's worth of driving cost $10 for an average car with today's gas prices. With this 3hr chick, that's $30 ONE WAY. PLUS you gotta do all that driving.
 

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my boys are going with me too. We are going clubbin ova there. We are meeting at a different place at here friend apartment. so its only going to be a 2 hour drive. But still, it too far normally but im just bored of the local area and want to travel out. I doubt we have sex becuase I always back off becuase im a little worried...dont know why. I was brought up sex before marriage was bad. anyway, im going to have fun and meet this chick too. She said she will treat me right and show me a good time. Russian Chicks :)
 

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If your going with some mates you can have a good time whether she shows or not. I would go. 3 hrs is fvck all. I drive 1 hr to work every day and thats a doddle. I wouldnt go without some kind of backup plan thow....If you drive 3 hrs and she is a no show then your left in the sh!t.

Sex before marridge is the best kind. You have to have sex with a girl before you marry her. Otherwise your just being silly!


Sarge On!
 

everywomanshero

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Internet chicks are easy to bang, but 3 hours is kind of extreme.

I personally would not do it, no. There is always some risk she will flake, too.
If I were a virgin, I don't know what I'd do. It's been over 10 years since I had to think about that.

It also depends on if you'd like to go to that town anyway. If the answer is yes then you have nothing to loose even if she flakes, and if she doesn't all the better.

In general, these aren't things you should be doing. Instead, I'd recommend meeting chicks close to you or who live in places you want to visit anyway. The chicks are just a bonus that way. I wouldn't start running 3 hours in every direction just to meet chicks.

Don't get attached either. You can't have a relationship with a woman 3 hours away. That's just setting yourself up for lots of annoyingly long drives and calls.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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