Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Uhh... not drink?Dustin said:Alright so I used to be a heavy drinker I would only drink alcohol 40% or higher. but I got alcohol poison once and can't stand the smell or taste of it ...it makes me sick.. What should I do?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The Bad Ass Canadian said:I'm guessing you're not such a heavy drinker if one instance of getting sick has turned you off from booze.
I once swore that I would stop taking drugs unless I was going to a concert.When someone has a "problem" it means that they do drugs at inappropriate times and/or at inappropriate places.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dustin said:Alright so I used to be a heavy drinker I would only drink alcohol 40% or higher. but I got alcohol poison once and can't stand the smell or taste of it ...it makes me sick.. What should I do?
Yeah, I saw that a while ago. You have my favorite rum...as well as Knob Creek Bourbon. (I'm adding you to my respect list). I actually thought of your sig line when I had several Martini's last weekend. You lied; Unlike titties....two were not enough.Vulpine said:They think that, since I have such a huge amount of booze sitting around in my house (click the link in my sig if you haven't before), I must be drinking 24/7. To that I respond: "There is a time and place for everything."
You must've been having little "mosquito bite" martinis.Titanium said:I actually thought of your sig line when I had several Martini's last weekend. You lied; Unlike titties....two were not enough.
At that point do the liquor cabinets just become 'cabinets'?Bible_Belt said:They think that since I have such a huge amount of booze sitting around in my house, I must be drinking 24/7
I have run into that, too. Alcoholics have empty liquor cabinets, because they drank it all.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Didn't mean to stray from your point...Dustin said:I never said I ws an alcoholic...I said It makes me sick when i drink liquor.
Even cooking wine is not safe. (think I saw some in Vulpine's collection).Bible_Belt said:I have run into that, too. Alcoholics have empty liquor cabinets, because they drank it all.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.