"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Drinking Alcohol while sarging - a mild amount actually 'improves' things???

Guitar_Whizz

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I know this has been dicussed to death, but I was thinking about the subject of drinking alcohol when it comes to socialising.

I am pretty much a non-drinker, but drink occassionally.

Whenever I have a couple of drinks, I've noticed I'm still 'in control' yet slightly more confident. Could it actually be a GOOD thing to have a couple of drinks from time to time, just to ease your inhibitions, as long as you don't get to the point of being 'out of control'?

Remember in 'The Game', Style said this about drinking: "Drinking alcohol never made me do anything I didn't want to do, it just made me do the things I was to scared to do while sober".

I can relate to that quote.

However, I do not advocate alcoholism or using drink as a crutch. And I don't think drinking to excess is good for your health. Neither are hangovers.

But I have realised that a couple of drinks every now and then just to ease the odd inhibition has no adverse effects, therefore is it such a bad thing?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ligyron

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i think i'm probably more natural when i'm drunk. i'm better at speaking my mind and i can carry on a conversation longer. when sober, i'm thinking too much about what to say or what to say next or how i'm coming across, but when drunk im caught up in the conversation only and awkward pauses are nonexistant. i need to have a nice buzz going to get to this point. the problem is not taking it so far to the point where you're missing out on things, not noticing body language cues, sending the wrong signals, etc, dont get that drunk. i'd like to be able to be this person when i havent had anything to drink, but ive been unable to figure out how to do that yet. im too self conscious i guess
 

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Why drink when you can do a couple lines of blow? :crazy:

That'll help.
 
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