"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dressing conservatively

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Upon graduating from college i landed a job in an advertising firm. The dress code was really strict, as the male employees had to wear a suit to work everyday (tie included).

The women however dressed sloppy! Open toe shoes, no hosiery, and sometimes flip flops --- almost not even a business casual look.

This trend was practiced in 95% of the businesses i had dealings with during my tenure as an advertising sales executive. Call me ridiculous, but i think dress codes should apply to everyone--not just male employees.

Has anyone else ever experienced this in their job?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Not Quite There

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yeah, and women like men in suits.

i like wearing a suit, and i dress sloppy a lot of the time.
 

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Back in the 60s, women wanted equality. Thats fine.

Now, they want empowerment. This is the result of such empowerment.

When I went to elementary school, we werent allowed to wear hats in the school. I never cared until I saw girls wearing them, and it was ok. I never understood the contradiction.

Its like this in most clubs too. My gf and I went to a club wearing cowboy hats. I was asked to remove it, she wasn't. Double standard much?

Your ad firm is a company that is under the heel of feminazis. They want to be above the rules. They want to look like whors and have the opportunity to seduce their way to the top, all the while claiming that they still don't have equal power that men do. They're right. They have more.

Business should enforce a strict dress policy for all workers if they do have one. People should be judged on their merit and profitability in business and not the sexiness of their legs or how high their a.s.s. is.
 

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Actually, I'm gonna bet it's NOT feminazi's. The boss/owner just wants to check out all the ladies.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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tristan22

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Actually the females didn't dress sexy, they dressed like slobbish barn hogs! Wearing suits everyday isn't cheap, so seeing them dress casually really got annoying.

Women seem to have the world by the a$$ right now!
 

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barn hogs....you are from the midwest???:box:
 

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Same thing at my job - It's business casual, but the women get away with all kinds of ****. I've seen jeans, flip flops, yesterday a woman was wearing a hoodie?! Meanwhile I'm wearing a collared shirt, khakis, and some spit-shined leather shoes . . . Definitely not cool . . .
 

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You are right. They dress to show off ****.

Kind of pisses me off, because I wouldn't date anyone from work anyways as we know what kind of nightmares that can produce.

**** EM.

I pretty much bust on all the girls at work, just to practice, but I watch the line. Don't want a harassment suit!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Coolage

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Tristan, its that way everywhere. Suits cost a lot plus need to be dry cleaned.

Such is "equality".
 

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Yes I've experienced it too - right down to one of my mates being told off for not wearing a tie when the office was boiling.

Yet the women wear what the hell they want.

It disgusts me.
 
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