"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Dress to look Less muscular

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I've been working out regularly since I was 14/15 and have absolutely no idea what I'd look like if I had never worked out. My guess is that Ive probably added some 20-30 lbs of muscle through working out (at 6'3 - I'm not that muscular).

However, I'd like to try to approach without girls noticing that I'm any "muscular". Might seem silly, but I think it'd help my confidence if I can learn to pull it off without having that advantage.

Any idea on how I could dress to look less muscular/slimmer (other than not wearing body fit shirts of course)?

Say you took a before and an after picture (with 20-30+ lbs of muscle) and the person is wearing a jacket...could you tell any difference? I assume many people will say "no way", but I'm wondering, if that's true as shoulders might look broader and all
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Why would you want to do that?

The way I see it, if you've got a great body, show it off.

You weren't just born with that great body. You worked your ass off for it. Is your self-esteem that low that you don't think you deserve the attention that your hard work brings you?
 

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Sounds like he just wants to experiment, which is fine and dandy.

Polo shirts are generally pretty good at masking muscle if you find one at the right size.

Shoulder broadness doesn't say everything about muscularity, just masculinity.

Besides what kind of shock will you give a girl when you take off your shirt for the first time in bed and she sees a Greek God physique on top of her? :D
 

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How about reducing BF%? With short sleeves you'll look more muscular/vascular but with long sleeves you may actually look a bit smaller. Going from 14% or 15% BF down to 9% will shave off some size from your shoulders, arms, waist and legs. You won't fill out your shirts quite as full, they will probably hang a bit more.

Experimenting with the idea would probably be fun and something different but if you work out regularly then that is who you are and a good characteristic/attribute to have.

Instead of trying to "mask" your advantages, how about working on your "weaknesses"?
 

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You invested in something you are now having regrets for.

Think about why you want to change your style. For girls. If you do this you are saying they have significant say in that area of your life.

Personally I never dressed with a "rule" as you are searching for. Sometimes I find something I really like and that is my style. Searching for something based on advice to your problem of identification will only lead to more association with identification.

When I go shopping I can feel when enough is enough, and it is often very soon. I seek gems to brighten my life, not just lots of stuff. People often buy tons of clothes for reasons of too much social pressure. I used to wear the same pair of pair of grey sweatpants all year round.. Not because I couldn't afford more but because my lack of care for the world was so great. My threshold for their opinions of me has since, and is still evening out.

The important point to take from this is to consider your motives for your actions. Are you doing what you are for yourself, are you being true to yourself?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Black clothing has the ability to make you look smaller (in size, not height) then you actually are. I would try wearing black long sleeves or wearing hoodies regularly if you can manage in your climate.
 

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Thanks for the replies. I really just want to experiment like someone said. I've always felt that being somewhat muscular was fairly important for my looks (and in the past have often made sure to find clothes that showed my muscle (without looking gay'ish of course)), yet (now in winter) I've been realizing that sometimes there are moments when girls check me out a lot even if I'm wearing a jacket (which I often do with just a t-shirt not 2 layers of sweaters underneath ;)), so now this has made me wonder more than a bit how important muscles really are, if you're tall (without looking skinny)and look good in general (which I think I do, though Im not saying I look like a male model or something).

PS: keep in mind I live in Germany, maybe muscles play less of a role here than in the US
 

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Yeah American women are about as shallow as Mount Everest
 

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That wasnt my point lol, my point was that it seems that in the US muscle seems to be more important looks-wise than in many parts of Europe...at least Ive heard things like that, and there are clearly more guys who lift weights in the US than here in Germany (its not that common really)
 

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Why not just go out looking like a slob? Use what you have and be thankful. Theres no reason i would try to make myself ugly to help my confidence.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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who cares what goies on iin the us man serslyt i live in canaad am fat and get massive vibes from girls who purse their lips, literally break in their thought trains to glare at mne

whatever its like thera man just deal with it

beautfy your life and you dont need to do stuff like that
 
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