Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Sharp appearance makes your body look good. Also shows some creativity, individuality, and courage depending on what you wear.fertileTurtle said:A salesman probably. How the hell does wearing plaid shorts, white shoes, and a gay hat attract more women?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Do you dress for yourself? Or do you dress in a manner to show other people something about you? Women are people also.f283000 said:There is something totally wrong about your mindset if you are at the point that you are thinking of buying clothing/dressing a certain way just to get female attention.
You should never let yourself get to a point where you have to change your whole dress style just cause of women. You might as well just hand your balls over to them as well. Do your own thing, dress how you want, how you feel comfortable, and just work on those things that are known to attract women which are confidence and good game. Concentrate on becoming a real man first cause no matter what clothing you wear it doesn't hide the fact you aren't a real man yet. Work on becoming more masculine.
Has anyone LOOKED at the outfits on the site!? All they say is that you have no sense of what looks good, or got dressed in the dark.Alle_Gory said:Do you dress for yourself? Or do you dress in a manner to show other people something about you? Women are people also.
Its important to take into account what women like to see, and how they respond to it as well.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I've looked. Not my style or comfort. But there are a few ideas that I can use.2.0 said:Has anyone LOOKED at the outfits on the site!? All they say is that you have no sense of what looks good, or got dressed in the dark.