You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Sharp appearance makes your body look good. Also shows some creativity, individuality, and courage depending on what you wear.fertileTurtle said:A salesman probably. How the hell does wearing plaid shorts, white shoes, and a gay hat attract more women?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Do you dress for yourself? Or do you dress in a manner to show other people something about you? Women are people also.f283000 said:There is something totally wrong about your mindset if you are at the point that you are thinking of buying clothing/dressing a certain way just to get female attention.
You should never let yourself get to a point where you have to change your whole dress style just cause of women. You might as well just hand your balls over to them as well. Do your own thing, dress how you want, how you feel comfortable, and just work on those things that are known to attract women which are confidence and good game. Concentrate on becoming a real man first cause no matter what clothing you wear it doesn't hide the fact you aren't a real man yet. Work on becoming more masculine.
Has anyone LOOKED at the outfits on the site!? All they say is that you have no sense of what looks good, or got dressed in the dark.Alle_Gory said:Do you dress for yourself? Or do you dress in a manner to show other people something about you? Women are people also.
Its important to take into account what women like to see, and how they respond to it as well.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've looked. Not my style or comfort. But there are a few ideas that I can use.2.0 said:Has anyone LOOKED at the outfits on the site!? All they say is that you have no sense of what looks good, or got dressed in the dark.