"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dreams

Desert Rose

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Hey everyone, I have a question for you all..

I was wondering how you find passion in life; how does someone find out what their dreams are?

I've been doing massive amounts of thinking in the past few months, and I know one thing that is for certain... I want to be passionate about my life and find things that I will love doing. My problem is that I do not know what that is. I am always trying to find out what my forte is and what I enjoy, but nothing is clicking.

What kind of things help someone find out exactly what they want out of life?

I used to be into sports and really train hard, but the time has come that I cannot play anymore due to various reasons. I feel as though I am missing something from my life, a large whole that I need to replace. It has made me down for a little while, not because I don't like my life but because I want more than just going through the motions and "getting by". Any discussion on this would really help me out.

Thanks everyone.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Desert Rose

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I guess a lot of people can just relate, I find it hard to believe no one has experience on this forum in finding out what their dreams are considering that its always mentioned in what us guys need to be doing.

Give me some advice men.
 

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If you don't know what your passion and dreams are, try experimenting. Try everything new that you can. Even if you don't think you'd be interested in it. Just constantly try new things and you'll develop new interests and passions and that I think will lead to dreams.
 

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I agree to speakeasy. You have to try new things and stay open minded for other peoples' experiences. Ask yourself what makes your life worth living for you? Is it money? Is it time with your friends? Is it being independet? Imagine yourself with 70 years. Would you look back and say "I've exactly lived the life which I wanted" or would you rather look back in regret and say "I always wanted to do or become this and that but I failed because I never even tried".

I can recommend you to travel a few months on your own and/or start with some kind of meditation in order to free your mind from all that everyday worries (appointments, obligations, etc.) This worked for me.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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imagine yourself doing something, then take it away. Does it pain you? do you really want it back? ...do you keep thinking about it?

guess what, you've just found yourself a goal. and goals tend to become dreams, or something like that.
 

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thats great advice thanks guys, i know i want to travel and see as much of the world as i can.. at the moment im in college so that makes it pretty tough. Im going to try living in ocean city, maryland this summer and I bet i could put a lot of what you guys just said to use. Im not happy going to school where I am now, so getting out of here might help me out as well. I have another semester though so Im gonna use that time to figure out what I want out of my life. Thanks a lot!
 
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