"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Desert Rose

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Hey everyone, I have a question for you all..

I was wondering how you find passion in life; how does someone find out what their dreams are?

I've been doing massive amounts of thinking in the past few months, and I know one thing that is for certain... I want to be passionate about my life and find things that I will love doing. My problem is that I do not know what that is. I am always trying to find out what my forte is and what I enjoy, but nothing is clicking.

What kind of things help someone find out exactly what they want out of life?

I used to be into sports and really train hard, but the time has come that I cannot play anymore due to various reasons. I feel as though I am missing something from my life, a large whole that I need to replace. It has made me down for a little while, not because I don't like my life but because I want more than just going through the motions and "getting by". Any discussion on this would really help me out.

Thanks everyone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Desert Rose

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I guess a lot of people can just relate, I find it hard to believe no one has experience on this forum in finding out what their dreams are considering that its always mentioned in what us guys need to be doing.

Give me some advice men.
 

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If you don't know what your passion and dreams are, try experimenting. Try everything new that you can. Even if you don't think you'd be interested in it. Just constantly try new things and you'll develop new interests and passions and that I think will lead to dreams.
 

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I agree to speakeasy. You have to try new things and stay open minded for other peoples' experiences. Ask yourself what makes your life worth living for you? Is it money? Is it time with your friends? Is it being independet? Imagine yourself with 70 years. Would you look back and say "I've exactly lived the life which I wanted" or would you rather look back in regret and say "I always wanted to do or become this and that but I failed because I never even tried".

I can recommend you to travel a few months on your own and/or start with some kind of meditation in order to free your mind from all that everyday worries (appointments, obligations, etc.) This worked for me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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imagine yourself doing something, then take it away. Does it pain you? do you really want it back? ...do you keep thinking about it?

guess what, you've just found yourself a goal. and goals tend to become dreams, or something like that.
 

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thats great advice thanks guys, i know i want to travel and see as much of the world as i can.. at the moment im in college so that makes it pretty tough. Im going to try living in ocean city, maryland this summer and I bet i could put a lot of what you guys just said to use. Im not happy going to school where I am now, so getting out of here might help me out as well. I have another semester though so Im gonna use that time to figure out what I want out of my life. Thanks a lot!
 
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