You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That's real classy. Very smooth too.TheNastyPlayer said:If she rejects you just tell her she tasted like sardines really loud and make sure her friends are listening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I recommend the "or we can go out bit". It might feel good to have her come watch you play, but think about it, what are u gonna do then? Why have her sitting around doing nothing for an hour or two watching something she probably knows next to nothing about and risking her getting bored or whatever. (Or you have a crappy game and she was thinking you're some star and now u let her down or something like that.) Just go do something with her first, make a couple of moves on her trying to get down her pants, and then she can come watch you play all she wants.sometime you can come to my soccer match(because I told her 2 come watch) or we can go out.