"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Read more...

Drawing the line

Matty

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 13, 2008
Messages
14
Reaction score
0
Location
San Diego, California
I've been having a problem with being a tad bit too jerk-ish with women. A girl today told me that she's awaits the day that I say something nice to her, because I always appear to have a derogatory comment. (Keep in mind she said it in a some what flirty manner) I then proceeded to try and hand her a pen and paper so she's able to make note of when this miraculous event does occur. For example, a couple days ago a girl came to me complaining about her stomach, I obliged her and made an effort to ask about it later, but when it came up, I froze and threw out another jerky retort.

Her: Yeah, it's okay, I think I'll live.
Me: That's unfortunate.

Where do I draw the line with comments such as these? Would a better approach have been a hug and something a bit more "sensitive"?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Joined
Feb 19, 2008
Messages
100
Reaction score
1
...just dont be an ass. the key to the whole ****y and funny thing is to be funny. that is by far the most important part
 

verysuave

Banned
Joined
Oct 3, 2006
Messages
667
Reaction score
2
i used to be like you. But then i am now borderline but don't cross it.. Once in a while if she's really a b1tch and likes to play rough games. You just have to be a gooood tease

hb: i wait for the day
you: maybe an hour from now. maybe tomorrow. You never now

somewhere along those lines
 

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
Another experiment in C/F gone amok. To add to what Canadianmetalhead said, the key is to be funny not only to yourself but to the woman too!!! If your style of humor is based solely on sarcasm your best bet is to try another approach altogether, constant sarcasm ends up sucking the life out of everyone around you.
 
Top