"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Drawing the line: pursuit and ego

DJ Miquelo

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Wassup broskis

I was thinking, where should the line be drawn when it comes to pursuing a female?

I had an experience with a girl in which i believed her to be trying to tease me so what i did was essentially just walked away from her and her games. I also ignored her after she tried to talk to me again and such.

Due to the nature of what occurred i felt i had been disrespected and therefore she was not worthy of my time.

What im wondering is do you guys think that since females enjoy the pursuit and such then you should pursue her to a degree even after you may feel disrespected (altho this may be ego coming into the equation??)?
OR
should you always ditch disrespectful females? (which is what ive been doing up until now)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think it depends on whether you were really disrespected or not. Girls love flirty little hard to get games, play along. But if she did something like stood you up, or is trying to make you jealous flirting with guys in front of you then ya f her
 

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DJ Miquelo said:
Wassup broskis

I was thinking, where should the line be drawn when it comes to pursuing a female?

I had an experience with a girl in which i believed her to be trying to tease me so what i did was essentially just walked away from her and her games. I also ignored her after she tried to talk to me again and such.

Due to the nature of what occurred i felt i had been disrespected and therefore she was not worthy of my time.

What im wondering is do you guys think that since females enjoy the pursuit and such then you should pursue her to a degree even after you may feel disrespected (altho this may be ego coming into the equation??)?
OR
should you always ditch disrespectful females? (which is what ive been doing up until now)
Does a man ever place a girl higher than his own self-respect?
 

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I always ditch disrespectful females as long as it's obvious that she really IS disrespectful and not just playing games and playing hard to get and what-not. I usually stick around if she's playing games, she can't win, and I get to have sex eventually, and that's that.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Reckoning said:
I always ditch disrespectful females as long as it's obvious that she really IS disrespectful and not just playing games and playing hard to get and what-not. I usually stick around if she's playing games, she can't win, and I get to have sex eventually, and that's that.
There is definitely a clear-cut line between coquetry and disrespect
 

jophil28

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There is definitely a clear-cut line between coquetry and disrespect
There is indeed. The way to make the distinction is this -

Coquetry produces feelings in you of amusement, intrigue, attaction and even mild confusion...you may feel slightly nervous and "off balance" but you want more.

Disrespect, on the other hand, triggers feelings of being belittled, diminished and humiliated. YOu will experience that common discomfort of having your ego attacked .
THis kind of disrespect also leads to either a desire to "get back" at her OR a desire to run away - which is probably your wisest decision.
 

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What about a girl who used to be your f-buddy but was disrespectful and then stopped answering your calls wants to get with you again? On one hand it's just sex so who cares, but on the other hand I feel kind of mad at her. Is sex worth swallowing your pride?
 
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