Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Drawing the line: pursuit and ego

DJ Miquelo

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Wassup broskis

I was thinking, where should the line be drawn when it comes to pursuing a female?

I had an experience with a girl in which i believed her to be trying to tease me so what i did was essentially just walked away from her and her games. I also ignored her after she tried to talk to me again and such.

Due to the nature of what occurred i felt i had been disrespected and therefore she was not worthy of my time.

What im wondering is do you guys think that since females enjoy the pursuit and such then you should pursue her to a degree even after you may feel disrespected (altho this may be ego coming into the equation??)?
OR
should you always ditch disrespectful females? (which is what ive been doing up until now)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Chromeo

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I think it depends on whether you were really disrespected or not. Girls love flirty little hard to get games, play along. But if she did something like stood you up, or is trying to make you jealous flirting with guys in front of you then ya f her
 

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DJ Miquelo said:
Wassup broskis

I was thinking, where should the line be drawn when it comes to pursuing a female?

I had an experience with a girl in which i believed her to be trying to tease me so what i did was essentially just walked away from her and her games. I also ignored her after she tried to talk to me again and such.

Due to the nature of what occurred i felt i had been disrespected and therefore she was not worthy of my time.

What im wondering is do you guys think that since females enjoy the pursuit and such then you should pursue her to a degree even after you may feel disrespected (altho this may be ego coming into the equation??)?
OR
should you always ditch disrespectful females? (which is what ive been doing up until now)
Does a man ever place a girl higher than his own self-respect?
 

Reckoning

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I always ditch disrespectful females as long as it's obvious that she really IS disrespectful and not just playing games and playing hard to get and what-not. I usually stick around if she's playing games, she can't win, and I get to have sex eventually, and that's that.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Trader

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Reckoning said:
I always ditch disrespectful females as long as it's obvious that she really IS disrespectful and not just playing games and playing hard to get and what-not. I usually stick around if she's playing games, she can't win, and I get to have sex eventually, and that's that.
There is definitely a clear-cut line between coquetry and disrespect
 

jophil28

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There is definitely a clear-cut line between coquetry and disrespect
There is indeed. The way to make the distinction is this -

Coquetry produces feelings in you of amusement, intrigue, attaction and even mild confusion...you may feel slightly nervous and "off balance" but you want more.

Disrespect, on the other hand, triggers feelings of being belittled, diminished and humiliated. YOu will experience that common discomfort of having your ego attacked .
THis kind of disrespect also leads to either a desire to "get back" at her OR a desire to run away - which is probably your wisest decision.
 

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What about a girl who used to be your f-buddy but was disrespectful and then stopped answering your calls wants to get with you again? On one hand it's just sex so who cares, but on the other hand I feel kind of mad at her. Is sex worth swallowing your pride?
 
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