"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Drama or not?

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Think o specificf examples to put women on an emotionall roller coaster ride (NOT DRAMA maybe partial drama)?


1. Live up to promises then break them?
ex. you and your gf plan on watching a movie then all the sudden, a good friend that you havent seen for years tells you he wants to see you the same night you and your girl are gona see a movie. So, instead of spending time with her , you then decide to go see your friend because theres a good logical reason why you should see him.

*so, would this be drama or creating push and pull?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think the "hot and cold" method is better than drama. It seems to work very well for me. One minute shower them with affection, the next, pull back and be aloof.

I don't know exactly why this works with women, but it does.
 

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DjNoob....you really do NOT have to even worry about this. There are a lot more things a guy has to focus on and work on when they are trying to find their way in having lasting involvements with women...and this is seriously a waste of your time.

All you really need to do is be a man and the woman will react by being a woman. It's actually very simple.

Men have been conditioned by society to behave like girly men...until you undo that damage and take on the role of a man it doesn't matter how many of the hints or techniques here you try...it's not going to get you anywhere.

Learn to BE A MAN...that's ALL you really need to do.
 

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ok wild, now, can you please provide at least one example of your definition of "BE
A MAN" besides the not being to clingy etc." part
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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undesputable

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you just got a ****ing thread with 99 posts....it being closed should give you a hint that this drama thing has been discussed enough already...
 

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ok, this "Be a man" i think doesn't apply to my age yet since im in my mid 20s...


Wild, arent you in your 40s from what Ive read ..so maybe you're applying this "Be a man/nice guy"persona to males around their early 30s (the ones who are ready to settle down)

It seems like "the nice guy attitude" which girls around my age are not as attracted to compared to the the jerk/fun type guy


Im asking this because I'm trying pin point exactly the kind of men most women are attracted to within my age range
 

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Originally posted by undesputable
you just got a ****ing thread with 99 posts....it being closed should give you a hint that this drama thing has been discussed enough already...
ill keep posting and asking question if i wanted to. As long as there are people willing to show interests to my posts then the show will go on
 

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No, thats what a loser does. Sounds like behaviour that'd go on with an AW. You can push and pull, but if you feel like you need to make drama that means you are desperate for any feelings from her whatsoever.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I do not understand how creating drama in an otherwise drama-free relationship is a good thing.

I would LOVE to find a girl who was 100% drama free. Drama just causes anxiety and pent-up rage. It does not "make things interesting" as you so put.

Here is some advice to live by:

IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS NOT MAKING YOUR LIFE BETTER, YOU SHOULD NOT BE IN IT!

(man, I should post in the tips section more)

If you are setting out to create emotional turmoil just to keep the attention of a girl, then you are acting the role of a dependent AFC who needs conflict to remind him that he is still in a relationship with a girl he thinks is above him.

And to answer your original post, breaking promises doesn't create drama. What it does is diminish your integrity and make you look like a fool.
 

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djnoob i seriously hate your posts. Its just the same old questions again and again. Youre looking for an answer but you cant find it, can you? Ill tell you now you aint going to find the answer. Figure out your flaws and work on them. Self-Improvement. Fuk worrying about whether it works THAT way or THIS way.

that is all. bye.
 
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