reyalp
Master Don Juan
edit: never mind.
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What studies support the side of eating before cardio? That's just stupid if you're trying to lose fat. Instead of running off fat caleries you're running off food caleries. It's that simple. If all you want is cardiovascular fitness, you can eat first, but don't expect to lose fat nearly as quickly.Question: Should I do cardio before breakfast?
Short Answer: We could write a book about this. Some people say it's better, some say it's not, and there are studies supporting both sides of the argument. How do you find out what works better for you? You try them both and compare your progress, just like the HIIT question above.
Coyle, et al. Muscle glycogen utilization during prolonged strenuous exercise when fed carbohydrate. J. Appl. Physiol. 1986;6:165-172.Shiftkey said:What studies support the side of eating before cardio? That's just stupid if you're trying to lose fat. Instead of running off fat caleries you're running off food caleries. It's that simple. If all you want is cardiovascular fitness, you can eat first, but don't expect to lose fat nearly as quickly.
Also, I wouldn't consider anything above 15% BF to be "lean" for men. Infact 20% for men is damn well close to obese.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Coyle, et al. Muscle glycogen utilization during prolonged strenuous exercise when fed carbohydrate. J. Appl. Physiol. 1986;6:165-172.
Coyle, et al.. Carbohydrates during prolonged strenuous exercise can delay fatigue. J. Appl. Physiol. 59: 429-433, 1983.
Horowitz JF, et al. Substrate metabolism when subjects are fed carbohydrate during exercise. Am J Physiol. 1999 May;276(5 Pt 1):E828-35.
Febbraio MA, et al. Effects of carbohydrate ingestion before and during exercise on glucose kinetics and exercise performance. J Appl Physiol. 2000 Dec;89(6):2220-6.
translation: no studies please. who cares what they say (except the people who write them or the 150lb monsters who read them).reyalp said:
So...those studies all said eating before cardio makes you lose less fat. If a newbie tries both, they're going to waste time and probably get discuraged. It's not realistic to tell newbies to try both.reyalp said:That's just for starters. I've got stacks of these supporting both sides. For me, I saw more rapid weight loss from fasted cardio, but I dropped 5lbs of LBM while I dropped 6lbs of fat. Now that I do low-intensity after my weight training, I've lost 1lb, but dropped 3% in body fat. I think a newbie should try both and empircally compare their results. Even if you're burning 100% glycogen, you're still creating a caloric defecit for the rest of the day. Reasonable caloric defecit = fat loss
Anything above 16% and you're probably going to just get fatter unless you focus on losing that fat. Someone that fat should definately lift weights (really, even an obese guy should), but they shouldn't try to make "gains." They should do more cardio while lifting weights, and ideally lose weight and fat, while building muscle. Just not as much muscle as the guy focusing on gains.You're right in that lean is the wrong word to use there. That being said, I think if you've got a bodyfat in the teens, then there's nothing wrong with trying to get some great newbie gains when you start training, it can only help you in the long run.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Those studies tell me nothing. You listed titles and names. I'm betting you're misinterpriting them.reyalp said:he asked, i delivered......but IMO you should experiment anyway, find the groove that gives you the best results. not everybody is exactly the same, some people have different circumstances, genetics, capacity for intense exercise, equipment, etc etc, you know?
That was a nice vote of no confidence.Shiftkey said:Those studies tell me nothing. You listed titles and names. I'm betting you're misinterpriting them.
I'd also like to add that none of them are current. Especially the ones from the 80s.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.