reyalp
Master Don Juan
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What studies support the side of eating before cardio? That's just stupid if you're trying to lose fat. Instead of running off fat caleries you're running off food caleries. It's that simple. If all you want is cardiovascular fitness, you can eat first, but don't expect to lose fat nearly as quickly.Question: Should I do cardio before breakfast?
Short Answer: We could write a book about this. Some people say it's better, some say it's not, and there are studies supporting both sides of the argument. How do you find out what works better for you? You try them both and compare your progress, just like the HIIT question above.
Coyle, et al. Muscle glycogen utilization during prolonged strenuous exercise when fed carbohydrate. J. Appl. Physiol. 1986;6:165-172.Shiftkey said:What studies support the side of eating before cardio? That's just stupid if you're trying to lose fat. Instead of running off fat caleries you're running off food caleries. It's that simple. If all you want is cardiovascular fitness, you can eat first, but don't expect to lose fat nearly as quickly.
Also, I wouldn't consider anything above 15% BF to be "lean" for men. Infact 20% for men is damn well close to obese.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Coyle, et al. Muscle glycogen utilization during prolonged strenuous exercise when fed carbohydrate. J. Appl. Physiol. 1986;6:165-172.
Coyle, et al.. Carbohydrates during prolonged strenuous exercise can delay fatigue. J. Appl. Physiol. 59: 429-433, 1983.
Horowitz JF, et al. Substrate metabolism when subjects are fed carbohydrate during exercise. Am J Physiol. 1999 May;276(5 Pt 1):E828-35.
Febbraio MA, et al. Effects of carbohydrate ingestion before and during exercise on glucose kinetics and exercise performance. J Appl Physiol. 2000 Dec;89(6):2220-6.
translation: no studies please. who cares what they say (except the people who write them or the 150lb monsters who read them).reyalp said:
So...those studies all said eating before cardio makes you lose less fat. If a newbie tries both, they're going to waste time and probably get discuraged. It's not realistic to tell newbies to try both.reyalp said:That's just for starters. I've got stacks of these supporting both sides. For me, I saw more rapid weight loss from fasted cardio, but I dropped 5lbs of LBM while I dropped 6lbs of fat. Now that I do low-intensity after my weight training, I've lost 1lb, but dropped 3% in body fat. I think a newbie should try both and empircally compare their results. Even if you're burning 100% glycogen, you're still creating a caloric defecit for the rest of the day. Reasonable caloric defecit = fat loss
Anything above 16% and you're probably going to just get fatter unless you focus on losing that fat. Someone that fat should definately lift weights (really, even an obese guy should), but they shouldn't try to make "gains." They should do more cardio while lifting weights, and ideally lose weight and fat, while building muscle. Just not as much muscle as the guy focusing on gains.You're right in that lean is the wrong word to use there. That being said, I think if you've got a bodyfat in the teens, then there's nothing wrong with trying to get some great newbie gains when you start training, it can only help you in the long run.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Those studies tell me nothing. You listed titles and names. I'm betting you're misinterpriting them.reyalp said:he asked, i delivered......but IMO you should experiment anyway, find the groove that gives you the best results. not everybody is exactly the same, some people have different circumstances, genetics, capacity for intense exercise, equipment, etc etc, you know?
That was a nice vote of no confidence.Shiftkey said:Those studies tell me nothing. You listed titles and names. I'm betting you're misinterpriting them.
I'd also like to add that none of them are current. Especially the ones from the 80s.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.