"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DR x 3 (weekend in Saigon)

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As advertised:

Date 1

Met a girl I'd seen twice before at the jazz club. We talked a little and then listened to the music for a couple of hours. It was kind of strange though; she'd let me feel her up (including her tits) and kiss her, but not on the mouth. Is that weird?

Date 2:

Saturday afternoon at a coffee shop. Absolute disaster. I was meeting this girl for a 'date' for the first time, and imagine the awkwardness of a first date combined with poor language skills on both sides. After half an hour I just wanted to get outta there.

Date 3:

Just ended a few minutes ago. I met this girl at a wine bar I'd been to before. We got some wine and chatted a bit, then went for a walk around the area. Without prompting she held my hand and talked about what we could do on our next date. then she was supposed to drive me home on her motorbike, but since I forgot my helmet and we'd been drinking, we decided that wasn't a good idea (anyone who knows Saigon traffic will agree with me).

So 2 outta 3 ain't bad. Though I seriously need some better first-date ideas; this coffee shop thing is getting old.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Leporello said:
As advertised:

Date 1

Met a girl I'd seen twice before at the jazz club. We talked a little and then listened to the music for a couple of hours. It was kind of strange though; she'd let me feel her up (including her tits) and kiss her, but not on the mouth. Is that weird?

Date 2:

Saturday afternoon at a coffee shop. Absolute disaster. I was meeting this girl for a 'date' for the first time, and imagine the awkwardness of a first date combined with poor language skills on both sides. After half an hour I just wanted to get outta there.

Date 3:

Just ended a few minutes ago. I met this girl at a wine bar I'd been to before. We got some wine and chatted a bit, then went for a walk around the area. Without prompting she held my hand and talked about what we could do on our next date. then she was supposed to drive me home on her motorbike, but since I forgot my helmet and we'd been drinking, we decided that wasn't a good idea (anyone who knows Saigon traffic will agree with me).

So 2 outta 3 ain't bad. Though I seriously need some better first-date ideas; this coffee shop thing is getting old.
youre in Saigon now?? cool sh!t man. Living abroad must be fun!
 

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Ken785 said:
youre in Saigon now?? cool sh!t man. Living abroad must be fun!
Sometimes, though living in the Third World has its own challenges.

Anyway, I'm still trying to figure out Vietnamese culture...we'll see how it goes.
 
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