"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DR:Ten Pin Bowling ---> kiss close! but 1 prob..

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Heya guys, havent done one of these before, here goes...enjoy..!!

When: Wednesday 19th
Time: 12:00pm - 5:00pm
Where: Met at the mall --> bowling --> bummed about!

Well I was running abit late, but met her in the mall around 12. We chatted, went to the book shop because i've got a $60 voucher to use there, then went to a mens shop to look for a tshirt for me :yes:

After that, I said she can take me to one of her 'girley' shops!! And she took me to a red cross shop (second hand clothing) which suprised me abit, however i'm fine with it cause' she looks respectable.

So we went there, then walked upto KFC and got some lunch, then went across the road to the bowling alley :woo:
(If i've got 1 word of advice for guys who are planning a first date, make sure you do an ACTION DATE!!!)

So we got a lane, and started playing (we both hadnt been bowling for about 3 years lol) and had some fun, I layed massive kino on her shower her the 'right' technique ;) hehe. She was loving it, giving me great eye contact and even initiation touching alot of the time, which is always a good level to gauge her interest!
We played 2 games then played some air hockey, got a drink and some food, sit and chatted.
I asked her "tell me something about yourself that not many people know" and she told me something about how she likes bushwalking, she asked me the same and I told her something about me, then I asked her to go again, and she goes "mmm ehh ..... nah dont worry" and I didnt want to pursue the matter, anyway later she told me what it was...

Turns out her father is an alcoholic :eek: I didn't really know what to do when she said this, so I just acted cool and calm, and just started talking about something else. Gotta say it was quite an awkward position for abit eheh.

Anyway after that we stood outside the front of the bowing alley, talked (cause it was raining) and then when it stopped raining for abit, walked to the 4ways (another shopping place) and just walked about. We ended up sitting inside a cafe` on comfy seats :D her on 1 side, me on the other. Anyway my legs where on the outside of hers, and I was holding both her hands. So we chatted and she was doing something on her phone, and I asked can I have a look at the pics on there, she was abit apprehensive at first but then let me...there were a few of her ex bf of them (you will understand if you read my previous thread on these forums) at which point I asked "whos this"? and she deleted some of them :D !! hehe.

Then we went walking around for abit, and ended up standing in abit of an arcade bit (only place that was warm) and I got her to txt her mum to come pick her up.

We talked about heaps of stuff, and we were touching eachother almost all the time (hands, chest, hugs, her resting her neck on me etc.) and anyway, we were there for awhile (prob 30-40mins I think) and then at one point I went to kiss her, made contact with her lips and just kinda held it in that position for awhile (lol this is kinda hard to explain so bear with me!) so it wasnt really a kiss..she wasn't up to do it...yet anyway ;)

Then the arcade bit we were standing in shut, and we moved under the front of a fast food chicken shop. I got a txt from mum saying she was ready to pick me up (I dont have my liscense yet) so anyway I grabbed her hands and said something about how fun bowling was, looked into her eyes, pulled her closer...was abit aprehensive to go for the kiss again, but I did! and this time she was keen, and kissed back :up: so that worked out well!!

After that I ran in the rain to where mum was waiting, jumped in the car and came home!!

Well fellow DJ's, that's my date report, everything went good...I think!! Please feel free to give me some feedback etc. :yes:

However this is where i'd like experienced advice: what do I do about her dad. I mean, being an alcoholic is bad, and yea...i'm kinda not sure what to do - if I like the girl then I should go out with her, and her parents shouldn't be an issue, at least not for now? Eh this bit confuses me, so i'd like some feedback!

Oh and her and her 'ex bf' arnt going camping anymore :crackup: hehe
 

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I must be one of the few people on this site who like reading FRs.

Anyway, sounds like it all went well! The only thing I'd suggest is to make your dates a little shorter. Sounds like you were out for at least five hours with her (correct me if I'm wrong). Make your dates shorter, but action packed. End the date when she's really having fun, it'll leave her wanting more.

what do I do about her dad.
Nothing. You're only dating this girl, and even if you get into a LTR with her, this isn't your problem to handle. However, I'd consider this to possibly be a red flag. She's likely to have some issues from living with an alcoholic. These issues will probably come out if you remain with her for an extended period of time.

However, this shouldn't be an issue if your not looking for a LTR or marriage. Just continue having fun with her!
 

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Desdinova said:
She's likely to have some issues from living with an alcoholic. These issues will probably come out if you remain with her for an extended period of time.
Yea man... shell get on you for drinking "too much" or something even when you dont really drink more than anyone else. To her you might exhibit all the warning signs and shell get all scared and run in circles demanding you shape up because she "cant be with someone like that" when it really should be you saying "i cant be with someone screwy like you."

eh just bein a pessimist :p
 

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good date, I always enjoy reading FR's.
Bowling is my first action date :)
good job
dont worry bout her dad, not your problem really just avoid it and keep things positive.
 

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Good stuff! Her dad isn't your responsibility as others have said, just try to steer any conversations away from him and those problems. She probably told you about him just to get it out in the open and see if it would be a problem for you.

I would advise against getting your mum to pick you up if you can avoid it, but overall, it sounds very positive and you did a great job. I admit, after the first failed kiss attempt I probably would have gone to pieces and cut the date short, so respect to you for holding it together and trying again!
 

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:D thanks guys!! hehe

Glad to get some good, positive feedback as it was my first DR :yes:!!

Will keep you guys posted on how things go, and if any probs rise!!

I sarge, therefore I am...the man
 

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Oh and forgot to say, she wanted to know how many previous serious relationships i'd been in and if I was the type of person to 'get with anyone' at a party.

To counter this I said I have 3gfs in 3 different cities :) lol but yea, what does that mean in womenspeak? And did I do a good job with my response?
 
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