"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DR: At Least she paid half

everywomanshero

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I did the "typical, dreaded" dinner date. Yuck! I can't believe guys actually enjoy doing this ****. The good news is she paid a little over half. Mirroring didn't seem to have a lot of affect on her. She was in a closed guard with arms crossed at one point. I used some funny stories to defeat this negative body language. Palm reading worked beautifully as normal. She fell for all the standard stories. The waiter ws actually semi-cool, and kind of had her interest talking about wine.

The bad news? Her house turned out to be 45 minutes away, so my plan to suggest renting movies was withheld. I think I had a couple too many drinks and blabbed her ear off. The restaruant was really great, though. If I'm ever in this area again, I'd eat there myself :) The bar afterwards sucked, and I made a mistake by focusing on her instead of entertaining the bar. I thought maybe since she was older she'd respond more to that. bad idea. Next time I'll try entertaining everyone to show more value/make her friends bragg about me.

Lessons Learned:
1. Even older women place more value on how other people respond to you than how much you pretend to care about her crap.
2. Learn different kinds of wines before going out with affluent, older women. Know how to pronounce the names correctly.
3. Make sure there is some way to isolate or don't bother showing up. Venue change with no way to isolate=crap. Having to make another drive later is too much trouble. Always be able to fclose on the first date.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lebRambo

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dude. dinner date? you know better than this sh*t!

Just out of curiosity, out of your experience and knowledge, how often do fcloses really happen on first dates? cause I just can't see them happening, at least with girls around my age.
 

Distant Light

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lol i never went on a dinner date. But i know when i do get older ima take my girl to alot of resturants with me cause i love food!

Side Note: Of course she is going to pay... or atleast pay half. Not really a date just me going so i'm able to enjoy good food and she is keeping me company
 
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