"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Downplay the importance of looks = coping mechanism

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Most humans innately prefer to have hope than be cognizant of an unpleasant truth that negates that hope even if positive results of that hope NEVER materialize

when guys see a man who is successful with women, usually they will talk it up to the man having good game, a good personality or confidence, is easier on the ego to believe that a man is succesful with women because of something he is doing rather than because of something he is

why because those guys may be able to replicate that man's good game, personality, confidence

they can't, however, replicate his looks, and that's a hard pill to swallow
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
1. many if not the majority of the guys here have plenty of looks but they struggled with women because of no game

2. maybe they don't want to talk about looks over and over again because it's not something that can be significantly altered and therefore not worth discussing

3 the vast majority of men: A)are good looking enough to attract most women as long as they possess other strengths and B)Do not have enough looks to attract women without any game. therefore talking about the tiny subset of men that can attract women without any game whatsoever is totally irrelevant

4. get out of the house once in awhile and you will see plenty of ugly guys with hot women


more like average or above average men with "hot" women aka above average but not really hot lol
 
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