"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Doubting yourself

judoguy

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quick advice needed/ survey

sometimes I will see an HB, approach within 3 seconds.... all is going well then all of a sudden after i get the number or especially if i get her facebook, sometimes even in mid conversation I look at the girl and think,

" holy ****, this girl is way too hot for me ! what am I thinking !?! there is no way I can get a girl this hot."
After this I usually stop talking to the girl and move on to a 6 or lower who I really have no motivation to call or do anything with and then its back to the drawing board. Anyone else have a similar problem?

This, coupled with the fact that I will see an obese guy walking with a HB6/7 and I will get really depressed. I look at myself in the miror and thing how ugly must I be if I cant pull a 7 or 8 and an obese guy is pulling that ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Das

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I pretty much have the same problem sometimes.
Especialy the part about seeing other guys walking around with chicks, since i don't get any play at all. I wonder "am I really that far down on the ladder?" I keep trying, but all signs keep pointing to yes, I am that far down, and I can't figure out why
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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Self-Doubt is Self-Sabatoge...

Chicks can smell it from a mile away.

The second you get that
" holy ****, this girl is way too hot for me !
feeling, she just realized it too.

Your dead in the water my friend, and it's all your fault.

Now, the question is... whatcha gonna do about it?
 
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