You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
lol, exactly. I had a few of my friends chuckling at me the other night... Here's the story:Originally posted by Lifeforce
haha.. yeah... I know what you mean. Yesterday a girl asked what I bench Pressed... I said 90 kg and she thought I was joking.. maybe I should say 150 kg next time someones ask. Why can't people ask how much you squat or deadlift.
looking forward to more workouts
You got your head screwed on right mate - keep at it, youngling. I'm the same; my biceps are a very strong bodypart, but if someone asks me to flex I'll always pull my shorts up and show 'em my quads. (in the summer anyway)Originally posted by semag
lol, exactly. I had a few of my friends chuckling at me the other night... Here's the story:
I was at a friend's house friday night, playing some beer pong a bit drunk. My friend was talking to these chicks and they were talking about the gym or something. The chicks were like "let's see your muscles!" ...then, they bent their arms at the elbow, you know.... flexing the bicep, evidently the one muscle everyone thinks should be giant if you go to the gym.
I came over and drunkenly explained to them that my friend shouldn't show them his bicep, because his bicep exercises are kind of lagging, and that's what I got him working on. I told him that he should totally flex his pecs and such to try to show them his best muscles.... his benching and squatting is pretty damn good. I was explaining that you should flex the muscles that are good on your body... they just thought i was weird![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Originally posted by Double
Alex - haha in my dreams =P can you give me a link for the rack chins, i never heard of them. Ok man i will educate them girls next time about the importance of leg training - i already done this to some guys who didnt want to hear it so why not explain the science of bodybuilding to some girls,maybe they will atleast pretend to listen that they can accidentantly touch my chest or something!
Lifeforce - sorry man i wanted to workout today and the day before....but i really couldnt. my whole body hurts, im totally exhausted mentally and physically. that would be okay so far but i also have lower back pain because i slept on the floor in the hotel(didnt want to pay). and the usual shoulder problems. but a new injury is comming up, i felt it since a few weeks but now it feels pretty severe. it's proabably because of the dips i feel a inflammation of the tendon sheath comming up and that would mean i couldnt train for weeks! so i wanna take it slow.
im thinking of a new workout plan for this hard times.
squats(If doable), chinups, static holds.
repeat 3times a week. pretty spartanic
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
YES!! only some weeks ago i could barely do one chinup..........................with one handOriginally posted by Lifeforce
Good lifting.. I see definite improvement in the chin-up section of your lifting.![]()
Big legs = powerful thrusting.Originally posted by Lifeforce
Alex, girls like strong legs? I never knew.![]()
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.