She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
nice one mate. how much difference in reps is there when you do weighted exercises compared with non-weighted? i'm at 10 reps the now with my chinups so i reckon i should add some weightOriginally posted by Double
chinups
7x+16kg(including the chain) new record
5x+16
5x+16
dips
7x+16 new record i think
4x+16
4x+16
considering i havent had any whey for about two weeks and no protein rich diet or anything more of a diet full of candies and 3times chinupping/dipping in 4days i think i can proudfully say im a hero making new records with pure willpower! dont wanna sound arrogant or anything just saying the truth
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
kickass lifts man... you're making me jealous. Let's have some friendly competition. First to 6rep 26 kg wins on the dips. I need to get the tris up to good size. Something you wanna try? =) I'm at 9 reps at 7.5 kg after the skull crushers. So I figure I can manage 10 kg or something for 6 reps.Originally posted by Double
chinups
7x+16kg(including the chain) new record
5x+16
5x+16
dips
7x+16 new record i think
4x+16
4x+16
considering i havent had any whey for about two weeks and no protein rich diet or anything more of a diet full of candies and 3times chinupping/dipping in 4days i think i can proudfully say im a hero making new records with pure willpower! dont wanna sound arrogant or anything just saying the truth
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haha.. sounds good! =DOriginally posted by Double
btw i probably will go to vacation for the next 8 days so that will leave me without lifting and a alcohol diet...you should be able to almost catch up with my current dips. so whats the bet? if i win i must travel to you, if i win then viceversa or something hahaha that would fire my azz up because im cheap =D
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.