"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Double's Weightlifting Journal
- Thread starter Double
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
warmup 5x50kg......too painful - SHOULDERS!! GAME OVER, BENCHMASTER
decline bench
6x65
6x65
6x65
decline bench db
8x17,5
flat bench db
8x17,5
lol, db benching i just dont understand how this is possible without someone giving you the db in the hand and taking it away.....IMPOSSIBLE
speed military pressing - 6x3x25kg
squat
5x85kg new record
4x85
4x85
bentoverrows
4x65
3x65
3x65
2x65
2x65
2x65
3x65
wrist curls
reverse: 0x35kg(made a few reps VERY BAD FORM)
normal: 12x35kg
weight:too lazy
cheers, silver
yeah gav. thanx, i remember we were the same. i see your bulking up is going good again.....and im about to cut then soon we will be same weight again lol......after pics i will make next week if everything goes right.
no=[im disappointed.....
yesterday i hit the 176lbs before sleep then i took 2fishoil caps and puked everything out soooooooooooo much food, zinc minerals magnesium fishoil etc 8[[[[[[[[ i hit only 174,5 after puking.........lol i punished myself with some flaxsseed oil pure from the bottle and a water protein shake BUT I STILL LOST MANY STUFF BECAUSE OF PUKING **** YOU I HATE IT SO DISAPPOINTED ://///....i ate and ate 4hours after workout for nothing!!!!!!!! =(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( i really have enough from bulking....thinking about it i have enough from everything **** you nothings pays off i dont understand it............ummm i shouldnt drink so much!!!!****ing drunkk for nothing ****!!!!!!!
LIFEFORCE: HEY MATE WASSUP!! i didnt do flat bench for 3weeks now....after my strong records up from 6x61 to 5x70kg my shoulders did hurt......AND IT DIDNT GO BETTER WITH TIME. WHAT SHOULD I DO.....DECLINE ARE OKAY....but...............hmm dips.....
TALKING ABOUT SQUATS..........LOL MY KNEE JOINTS ALSO HURT....not that bad but i hope they wont **** up also......
hurting bad:shoulders when bb benching
hurting:shoulders with other exercises, lower back, knees
hm!
SEMAG:I MEAN BENCH PRESS DECLINE AND FLAT.......when i do flat bench with db it was impossible for me to bring the db into the right position to start benching.....maybe i could have made it but the possiblity that i would hurt my joints even more is pretty high......at least i feel that........and after i finished set how the **** should i bring the db's on my thighs back loooooool i mean i can "throw" them on my thighs but that would hurt.......and i cant bring the slow down.....my arms are not strong enough for that!!....and im only using children weight for db bench press.....what when im using real weight..............
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i want to start a new journal next week. A new journal because i will never go again through so much bulking and cutting pain. pretty damn stupid to constantly forcefeed myself, ending up feeling like fat **** and then eating very little and feeling like a pvssy. sure it accelerates getting a good body, but feeling like crap won't let me reach my goals. so i will try the following, i have no clue how good the new supplements work, how good the new workout program works, and how good the new nutrition will work. so im all exicited about the results comming up.
supplements
fishoil
vitamin c
zinc
magnesium
mulimineral
WHEY
glutamin NEW
creatine NEW
nutrition
so much that im not hungry and not forcefeeded on normal days(i hope this will be around maintenance level cause im still not counting calories
). every 4-6day refeed day with double maintenace level(2x3000calories=6000 estimated~~)workout routine
day1
speed deads 7sets x3reps
weighted chin ups 3x3
dips 2sets
static holds 2sets
day2
bentoverrows 2sets
weighted dips 3x3
squats 2sets
day3
chinups 2sets
military press 2sets
deads 2sets
single leg calve raises 2sets
when i have the power to do it i will do rotator work, decline crunches at the end of the workout whenever possible.
gotta run(burn some calories)
cya men
day1
weighted chin ups 3x3 maybe substituted to straight bar curls
weighted dips 3x3 maybe substituted with close grip bench
static holds
day2
bentoverrows
dips
squats
day3
chinups
military press
deads
addiotional lying rotator, crunches, side raises, coc
supplement stuff ordered today hope it arrives soon
dip belt will be built tomorrow
food
changed it again - no refeed day.......refeed days are PAIN IN THE AZZ.......i aim for a small calorie surplus with lots of oatmeal. whey + instant oatmeal in shake. whey + oatmeal + water. whey + milk. selfmade pizza. chilli con carne. good old classic: chicken+rice. lean pig and burned potatoes(english??). whole bread and turkey. chicken sandwhich??. chicken and potatoe salad. quark with fruits(english??). NO cottage cheese **** you ffufufufufuffufufufufufufufufuuffufufuuuuuuuu
goals are still the same 15" and 150kg dead
in two days it may begin."Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
the thing where you connect the chain was too big for the chain....i will get a new "connector" soon. i was in a shopping haste thats why i forgot to try it out.
some thoughts
i wont take pictures from the cut, i asked my brother today but he didnt want to
anyway nothing special, yeh the cutting was good 4weeks 8kg 6-8%bf down but no visible abs or anything.-i think it's better to make smaller cuts like 1week or 2week every month or every 2months.....it's easier when you know it's over soon. also your metabolism can't shut down in such a short period, only a little bit, and this is good for the following bulking. so only benefits.
-maybe i will do 912hst next time but i have the impression that it will ruin my body hmm
-last but not least dont jerk off while cutting it keeps at least some sex drive. still im excited to experience how it feels to be "normal" again.
Tough man, is this kind of a homemade Dipsbelt? Sounds like something I like to try out. Buy a chain at connect it to a belt or similar.
How's the shoulder btw? Mine is almost healed now.
i think i lost 7kg fat, 0,5kg muscle, the rest glykowater
i measured at a scale in a public bath today, it said 70kg, waist is around 79-80cm, down from 91,5cm, both in the morning. yeh im satisfied with the results, i thought i would need about six weeks to 12% and in two more weeks i would have achieved it. but whats the sense when i gain some fat with my new bulk anyway, i would just be dissapointed to lose my hard worked sixpack. well i did go very hardcore sometimes, in the last 2weeks i ate only protein and vegetables except post workout and refeed days(4000cals carbs
). yesterday only 500calories today 250calories so far~~~~(even when i did cardio for more than one hour and working in the garden etc ) the ECA helpsgave back the old connector and got two new small ones for it....i can take some pictures of it if you are interested. feels a bit uncomfortable(with 10kg) but i think this is normal im just not used to a dips belt. i wouldnt get a belt just buy a isolation thing that has a hole in it where you can put the chain in it. 1€ 1m isolation, 7€ chain 180kg(can buy cheaper chain of course), 2-4€ connectors(for a connector i use the things that people use for climbing understand?)
shoulder is not healed but it's okay as long as i dont do flat bench.
only one cute girl was there who gave instructions to a little girl i watched them from time to time to get some swimming knowledge and some stares at the girl ;P
then i was thinking hmm i should approach her. friends as a girl source have almost depleted, i have no opportunity through work/school/hobbys or whatever, quality girls in clubs are rare, so i need to create opportunities. i was wondering if im just a ***** or if it really is a bad opportunity to approach her. because she was training the little girl. i never made an approach outside of a party environment but nothing is unchangeable.
so while i was wondering if im still too scared or if it's because it's disturbing to go up to her while she is training. i saw that they were on the other end of the lane practising jumps..so i kept on swimming to them of course. then the little girl left and the cute girl stayed there so as i arrived at the end i looked into her eyes wondering if i can do it now and what i should say. but as i arrived at the end my maleness took over and i heard myself saying "so, you are a swim trainer?" then we talked a little bit sounded good, she even studied sports for some time, i didnt know much too say but she kept the convo flowing and smiling. but the little girl arrived after 2minutes then we talked a little bit more till she said that she has to continue training the girl....she did say bye to me after the training was over and they left, well maybe i should have been more aggressive/chasing but i didnt want to do, not that im totally against a lil bit chasing but i prefer to be chased, but if i will ever feel like i want to chase then i will do it. i just want to give girls that i think are cute/nice/cool the opportunity to talk to me(that means i have to approach), everything else just flows or not. the thing im most proud of is that i wasnt too scared like in the past but i just did it automatically without fear even when my conscious mind was sceptical and pretty negative.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
vanwilder
Senior Don Juan
just thought i would point that out
good luck with your lifting
van
MindOverMatter
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- May 21, 2004
- Messages
- 1,887
- Reaction score
- 12
Where did you get the 72 hrs from? Arnold's Encyclopedia?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.