Double Dating

[CoandaEffect]

So I just had my 2nd date with a lady and it was a double date with another couple that I am friends with. Date did not really end well and I think her interest in me fell. That’s no big deal because I now know that she has quite a few issues that kill my interest in her as well. I have no intention of asking her out again.

In general what do you think of double dates? I always thought they were quite a good idea but now I’m not sure. For example there were a couple of times that my friends mentioned things that made it look like they were trying to sell me, which I did not want them to do. So that’s a con, your friends might mess it up for you.

What are your thoughts?

 

[Lookatu]

No double dates, no activity dates, no dates where getting to know each other involves many distractions for the first couple dates at least or until you have had sex. Because the purpose is to get to know EACH OTHER. There should be minimal distractions to facilitate this. Especially the older you get because older females often are trying to use you more for resources which includes free dinners and having fun(other than sex) like concerts, art events, etc.

It should just be drinks and you two to talk in a quiet(or semi-quiet) environment. That's it.

 

[Serenity]

Double dates can be nice if you're essentially already a couple and get along well with another couple. As a first date it's horrible, there's pressure all around and distraction from what's important on the first few dates.

 

[bat soup]

So I just had my 2nd date with a lady and it was a double date with another couple that I am friends with. Date did not really end well and I think her interest in me fell. That’s no big deal because I now know that she has quite a few issues that kill my interest in her as well. I have no intention of asking her out again.

In general what do you think of double dates? I always thought they were quite a good idea but now I’m not sure. For example there were a couple of times that my friends mentioned things that made it look like they were trying to sell me, which I did not want them to do. So that’s a con, your friends might mess it up for you.

What are your thoughts?

The whole point of a date is to get the girl alone and bang her. Other people are just going to kochblock you.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

So I just had my 2nd date with a lady and it was a double date with another couple that I am friends with. Date did not really end well and I think her interest in me fell. That’s no big deal because I now know that she has quite a few issues that kill my interest in her as well. I have no intention of asking her out again.

In general what do you think of double dates? I always thought they were quite a good idea but now I’m not sure. For example there were a couple of times that my friends mentioned things that made it look like they were trying to sell me, which I did not want them to do. So that’s a con, your friends might mess it up for you.

What are your thoughts?

No. Unless you have been dating her for a long time and are in an LTR.

 

[Barrister]

I would say no double dates until like date #5-#6 -- definitely after you have already banged and you see you have some good chemistry personality-wise and not just looking to hit it. And even then I think you need to keep in mind who the other couple is. If you're heading out with your buddy who also is just looking to hook up with some chick later that night it could work at that point -- if you're heading out with your buddy and his wife of multiple years I think that could be VERY uncomfortable depending on the situation. Doing it any earlier than that and it throws all of the energy off and interferes with your ability to do kino which is huge in early dates.

I would agree that in general this is something you should save for LTR-type situations.

 

[bat soup]

I find it hard to understand why anyone would ever do this. Why would you want onlookers and people that are going to butt in and make unfunny jokes whilst you're trying to get a girl's panties off?

 

[Glassguy]

No double dates until a woman brings up the "relationship discussion". Period.

 

[Barrister]

It's funny that this topic popped up yesterday because I actually just got a double date set for tonight (agreed to go with a buddy and his girlfriend and one of her friends). Don't know much about the friend of the girlfriend that I am on the date with. I am going in with zero expectations for anything but I am going to try to escalate. Should be a fun challenge that I am not used to.

 

[2Rocky]

Made me laugh. I was thinking back to a wine tasting trip where I was more or less my female friend's DATE and I just kinda thought it was a friends thing....

If I'm asked to be a date for a third wheel I just channel my inner gigolo and give her the time of her life. She doesn't ever have to see me again but I want her to have fun...I'm doing it for my friends (the couple) not myself. When you look at it that way even if you don't "like" your date. you can have fun. It's like taking kids to the amusement park. You have fun seeing that they are having fun....

 

[SW15]

Bad idea until you're officially a couple, which is usually after multiple instances of sex.

 

[Tilex]

I never liked double dates, even in relationships.
It's just too awkward.

Although, some people have used double dating as a social crutch or for social proof.