That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
don't worry about that man! just be discrete...I have around 50 candles in my room, which I could be fined £100 each for, I have a fridge in my room, which I'm not allowed and I listen to excessively loud music - however, I get on with my tutor and I do it in moderationFred Da Head said:
50 candles? how did you manange to fit that many in your cornhole ?howardalex said:don't worry about that man! just be discrete...I have around 50 candles in my room, which I could be fined £100 each for, I have a fridge in my room, which I'm not allowed and I listen to excessively loud music - however, I get on with my tutor and I do it in moderation
organizedconfusion said:50 candles? how did you manange to fit that many in your cornhole ?
that's pretty nasty dude..keep that shiet to yourself you wanker!
And it's cool about the tutor thing..what's his name?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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http://dvdmanager-203.sv2.biz/wwwdvds/1/195/SHOOTS/176x136/00000882.jpgorganizedconfusion said:oh come on..at least use a new pic! What a tease, I feel used
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just using the time I'm saving by not doing pointless exercise routinesorganizedconfusion said:you actually went and searched for gay porn to post up?
dude, I was only kidding..that's just plain disturbing
How desperate can people be for attention? sheesh...
So you admit to crusing for Gay porn? man ,you really don't have any shame do you?howardalex said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
just a decent command of the english languageorganizedconfusion said:So you admit to crusing for Gay porn? man ,you really don't have any shame do you?
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.