"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dorky guy with a hot girl-- the "big **** or loaded" stereotype

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I was out tonight, and noticed a dude looking like a serious tool with an HB9. She looked extremely interested, and I found out that they were hooking up. I talked about the situation with the guy I was with, and he was like "Around here you see very average looking guys with very hot women all the time. He must have a big **** or he must be loaded." This seems to be a common conclusion that men make when seeing this dynamic, but seems to be against the principles of the seduction community, ie. looks don't matter as much, personality is much more important. I would love to hear what people think about the "big **** or loaded" stereotype.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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ask caped crusader

the guys is full of useful information!
 

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Oh man, don't even get me started. I'll keep it short: you are absolutely correct, HOT women hook up and have sex with ugly, dorky guys ALL THE TIME. Most hot women that I see, are with avg. to below avg.-looking guys. So much so, that it's actually refreshing to see a hot woman with a good-looking guy.

You have to remember, the reason why we see this(hot women going for ugly men), is because attraction works completely different for women, than it does for men.
 

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He may very well have a big **** or be loaded, but that's not why she's attracted to him (how would she know if he had a big **** or a lot of money unless he told her, which is definitely not a turn on for girls).

Most likely he just had a lot of confidence. Maybe he's been reading up on this stuff like we have, or he does have a big **** and/or money and that's the source of his confidence.
 
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Well,my name was mentioned,so I'll throw my two cents in. First off,I never really made any thing regarding looks. It's just in my own experience,I haven't figured out what does and doesn't work. I have confidence issues,so even with that, I wouldn't know what to say about hot chicks getting with average dorky looking guys. In my mind at least,and this still rings true,yeah,it's the guy with all the money,maybe good looks or not,and wearing the "hottest trends" in fashion,and the women are so superficial to begin with,etc....

That's the thing too,once I develp confidence,and see or realize how this works,I may have some sort of reaction to where I liek freak out over how much I have missed out on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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