"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dorky guy with a hot girl-- the "big **** or loaded" stereotype

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I was out tonight, and noticed a dude looking like a serious tool with an HB9. She looked extremely interested, and I found out that they were hooking up. I talked about the situation with the guy I was with, and he was like "Around here you see very average looking guys with very hot women all the time. He must have a big **** or he must be loaded." This seems to be a common conclusion that men make when seeing this dynamic, but seems to be against the principles of the seduction community, ie. looks don't matter as much, personality is much more important. I would love to hear what people think about the "big **** or loaded" stereotype.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ask caped crusader

the guys is full of useful information!
 

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Oh man, don't even get me started. I'll keep it short: you are absolutely correct, HOT women hook up and have sex with ugly, dorky guys ALL THE TIME. Most hot women that I see, are with avg. to below avg.-looking guys. So much so, that it's actually refreshing to see a hot woman with a good-looking guy.

You have to remember, the reason why we see this(hot women going for ugly men), is because attraction works completely different for women, than it does for men.
 

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He may very well have a big **** or be loaded, but that's not why she's attracted to him (how would she know if he had a big **** or a lot of money unless he told her, which is definitely not a turn on for girls).

Most likely he just had a lot of confidence. Maybe he's been reading up on this stuff like we have, or he does have a big **** and/or money and that's the source of his confidence.
 
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Well,my name was mentioned,so I'll throw my two cents in. First off,I never really made any thing regarding looks. It's just in my own experience,I haven't figured out what does and doesn't work. I have confidence issues,so even with that, I wouldn't know what to say about hot chicks getting with average dorky looking guys. In my mind at least,and this still rings true,yeah,it's the guy with all the money,maybe good looks or not,and wearing the "hottest trends" in fashion,and the women are so superficial to begin with,etc....

That's the thing too,once I develp confidence,and see or realize how this works,I may have some sort of reaction to where I liek freak out over how much I have missed out on.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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