don't waste time on girls who aren't your type!

[floydb25]

I didn't want to affirm that I was her type. I wanted her to clarify what her type was. I wanted to know the differences between her type and me. It might help me become a generally more attractive man.

What's wrong with asking for feedback after you get rejected? It's like meeting an Alien for the first time. You want to know their opinion of you, right? Why not?

Because her reason for rejecting you says nothing about anyone else. Everyone is different. You can't go by what one person says - then change yourself accordingly. It's just her personal preference, and means nothing. You don't need to know why someone doesn't like you. Everyone has different tastes and standards.

Let's say she rejects you because you're too bad. So, you become nice, and the next person rejects you because of that. Changing yourself based on individual preferences is pointless. What works with one won't work with another.

Doing this shows that you care too much about what other think of you. It's another form of approval seeking, and needing to be accepted.

Now, if you were dating for a while - then there would be no harm in asking. But, this person never gave you a chance. She's not into you, therefore her opinion doesn't matter. You could be too anything for her personal liking.

 

[Chamber36]

I'm not seeking her approval. I don't give 2 ****s about this girl.

I basically got her number as an experiment.
Then she starts texting me randomly like she's in love with me or something. And then she suddenly rejects me. I guess what I actually felt like doing is saying: "So Why the F did you give me your number?!" She led me on and I was having trouble comprehending it.

I am starting to prefer sluts and *****s. They don't seem to lead guys on or lie to themselves all the time.

 

[Chamber36]

I see rollo's old post: Identity Crisis explains the situation better.
It basically answered the question. I still claim that I am not willing to change for this particular girl. She sucks. But it explains the dilemma of changing your identity I was teetering into.

 

[PokerStar]

The reason I think it is lame is because it screams "insecurity" and "bruised ego", neither trait is attractive to either sex.

ok i see where you are coming from.

To me, simply just walking away doesnt satisfy me. I want to convey the messeage to her or any woman for that matter, is to keep an open mind about things and to never judge a book by its cover.

Unless to them "not my type" means "im not into filipino's with shaved heads" then I would have nothing to do with them.

But who isnt into Filipinos with shaved heads anyway? we are so exotic.