don't waste time on girls who aren't your type!

[Chamber36]

Yo so like I wrote in my Journal I saw this girl who looked a little plain and boring, but she was goodlooking so I asked for her number anyway.
I text her the next day, we fluff.

She texts me today for some bs, and I reluctantly ask her out for thursday.
She says: I think you're nice but you're not my type.
I was like whoaaaaaaaaaaa, wtf.
So i explain to her that she's not my type either, but I asked her number anyway because she looked like LTR material.
So I try to persuade her to talk for 1 hour to learn about ourselves.
She refuses again. I understand that I'm not her type.

Anyway while the lesson I learned is this: DON'T WASTE TIME ON GIRLS WHO AREN'T YOUR TYPE.
Still sent her a text asking why I'm not her type and if she's indeed looking for an LTR. And that I just want to know to learn about myself so she should be honest.

 

[Chamber36]

She just sent me a text that she's got something going with a guy and doesn't want to ruin that. So i was right about the LTR thing.

NOW I ask: So it's not that I'm not your type?

She says: 'yes it is, but I think it's hard to say' (tried my best to translate.).

I'm upset because I tried something with a new type of girl and it didn't work. It's discouraging.

Am I supposed to ignore girls who aren't my type or am I supposed to get to know them??

So confusing....

Edit: I actually feel insulted.

 

[Chamber36]

I thought I had the upper hand because she wasn't my type.
Then she switches the goddamn roles and says I'm not her type!!!!

Anyway **** that.

Plan B: NC!!

I'm just going to sarge on my brotha's!!

 

[oneboy21]

Don't worry about this
Since it already happened with this, all you can do now
1) Go NC
2) Keep in touch with her, something might go wrong with the other guy and she might jump in with you, if that is the case you may get a lay

 

[Iceberg]

Still sent her a text asking why I'm not her type and if she's indeed looking for an LTR. And that I just want to know to learn about myself so she should be honest.

Why are you asking if she's looking for a LTR? You don't even know her. You've never dated her. You only have her number. And you're asking about a LTR?

She just sent me a text that she's got something going with a guy and doesn't want to ruin that. So i was right about the LTR thing.

NOW I ask: So it's not that I'm not your type?

She says: 'yes it is, but I think it's hard to say' (tried my best to translate.).

So wait a minute. A girl rejects you by saying that you're not her type....and you still ask her why?

Man up and move on. You sound needy and weird.

Am I supposed to ignore girls who aren't my type or am I supposed to get to know them??

My "type" is girls who I find attractive. Other than that, I don't care. What is a type?

If a girl is different than me, I'll still try her out. Maybe I'll learn something new. If a girl is similar to me, then that's cool too. Attraction is attraction. You can't base it around a pre-established "type"

 

[Robert28]

if she didn't want to "ruin things" with Mr. Great she wouldn't have given you her number in the first place.lol that right there told me everything I needed to know about her.

what "type" is this girl compared to you?

 

[Chamber36]

The whole "type" I'm talking about is that she looked like a real stay-at-home type of girl. Like the type of girl who doesn't meddle in any funny business. She wants to be seen as nice and neat. She actually had a 'high tea' on her birthday.

I, well I'm a man of all trades. I wear was wearing some nice clothes and timbs. I guess I wanted to know whether I came off as a player. I suppose I did.

 

[PokerStar]

my next line if she says your not my type

"yeah you are right. Im not your type. Im not into stuck up *****es who think they are better than other people"

oh i cant wait to see their reaction. im giggling in my seat right now.

 

[perseverance]

my next line if she says your not my type

"yeah you are right. Im not your type. Im not into stuck up *****es who think they are better than other people"

oh i cant wait to see their reaction. im giggling in my seat right now.

For someone who is allegedly digging a grave for AFC's that wasn't half an AFC comment right there.

The best rejection to being rejected is to not react at all. When I'm rejected I just take it like a man and walk away from the situation. It couldn't be any simpler, there's no need to come out with comments like the one above, that's just lame.

 

[Chamber36]

hmmmm.....
And I suddenly receive a text from the girl from friday.... Thought she was an AW. I suppose I should ask her out too now.


Edit:
I ain't in the mood so I ain't bothering with any texting.

Yeah but whatever it's all part of the battle. It was all a good experience now. I will have a reading on future girls like her.

 

[TopGun2000]

you don't know the girl at all. first impression is often deceptive. she might be a completely different person from what you thought.

 

[Black Dog]

A big ass and full sweater is my type.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Dated girls who "Aren't my type" before and actually had great times with them..

-new experiences
-new things you find interesting
-meet new people

And also, when you two find something you have in common it's pretty cool. I picked up this normal looking girl at a bar once.. She looked like the type of girl that would be into a guy with ripped abercrombie jeans, polo shirt, sports team hat whatever..

I'm the exact opposite of that guy. I'm a musician and I play rock music. Dress in tighter clothes, wear a leather jacket and all that.. When I found out this girl likes to listen to old jazz records I was immediately turned on since I too love old jazz records.

It's those things that you don't expect when you meet someone face to face that make them a special person.

 

[floydb25]

You're taking rejection too personally. You aren't going to attract, or be attracted to everyone. If someone's not your type, or shows low interest - find someone else. If they keep you around, chances are high that you're a back-up plan, or providing an ego boost. Respect yourself more than this.

The absolute worst thing you can do is prove that you ARE her type, and try to FORCE her into liking you. Or, start acting like a dumbass, and insulting her for not liking you. Both are signs of insecurity and too much ego.

Don't seek the approval of those who don't like you - because you'll never get it. The only thing that matters is her interest level and actions. Not all the fluff about having a boyfriend and being confused. Blah blah. Either she's up for dating or not. Don't wait around. Date others.

I dealt with a similar situation recently. A nice Christian girl - much like you described - said her "type" was a white non-smoker (ie, not me). I also suspect that I looked too "bad" for her liking. So, I wished her luck, and moved on. Simple.

 

[Scars]

Ive hit on girls that werent my type with complete success. I think the real lesson here is dont be an afc about it. Talking about ltrs right away? Thats a nono.

 

[PokerStar]

For someone who is allegedly digging a grave for AFC's that wasn't half an AFC comment right there.

The best rejection to being rejected is to not react at all. When I'm rejected I just take it like a man and walk away from the situation. It couldn't be any simpler, there's no need to come out with comments like the one above, that's just lame.

even if i say it with a little smile? i cant just walk away without havin' the last word.

 

[Crissco]

Ive hit on girls that werent my type with complete success. I think the real lesson here is dont be an afc about it. Talking about ltrs right away? Thats a nono.

X2...Liike Nike says..."Just do it"

Never bring up a relashionship. Let the girl bring it up first.

 

[Chamber36]

As a rule I generally don't ask about boyfriends or anything like that.

The reason I mentioned her being LTR material is because she asked me why I asked her number. I said: 'I don't usually go for nice girls like you but you looked like LTR material.' She gave me an ambiguous answer and I got curious whether I was correct.

I didn't want to affirm that I was her type. I wanted her to clarify what her type was. I wanted to know the differences between her type and me. It might help me become a generally more attractive man.

Just because she's not my type doesn't mean I don't want to know anything about her. Let me ask her some dam questions, even if I'm boosting her ego.

What's wrong with asking for feedback after you get rejected? It's like meeting an Alien for the first time. You want to know their opinion of you, right? Why not?

 

[perseverance]

even if i say it with a little smile? i cant just walk away without havin' the last word.

The reason I think it is lame is because it screams "insecurity" and "bruised ego", neither trait is attractive to either sex.

 

[Iceberg]

As a rule I generally don't ask about boyfriends or anything like that.

The reason I mentioned her being LTR material is because she asked me why I asked her number. I said: 'I don't usually go for nice girls like you but you looked like LTR material.' She gave me an ambiguous answer and I got curious whether I was correct.

I didn't want to affirm that I was her type. I wanted her to clarify what her type was. I wanted to know the differences between her type and me. It might help me become a generally more attractive man.

You know why it's dumb to ask that? Because she doesn't have a type.

Our "type" is whoever is attractive to us at the moment. Right now maybe she's dating some buttoned-up lawyer. And tomorrow maybe she's dating a biker. And the only thing consistent about the two men is that they know how to converse with her, and get her excited about dating them.

You're acting like there are rules for attraction.

What's wrong with asking for feedback after you get rejected? It's like meeting an Alien for the first time. You want to know their opinion of you, right? Why not?

Because it's useless. The girl wasn't attracted to you, and that's the end of the story. It doesn't matter why.

It would be like a carrot asking you why you don't eat it. "Because I don't like carrots."

Whatever this particular girl doesn't like about you might be attractive to the next girl. So yes, it's stupid to ask some random girl about why she doesn't like you. She barely even f**king knows you. What, are you going to change for her?