I recently met a great girl. Fun, attractive, and emotionally stable. Her interest lvl toward me right now is very high. Things are fresh and I really don’t want to mess this one up. I’ve read the bible and most of the good tips on here. However, could I get some quick and to – the – points tips in not losing this girl/or her interest level. Any advice would greatly be appreciated!!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Don't want to mess this one up. Tips?
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- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
WRX_is_like_SEX
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Dude . . .
What exactly is the problem?????:wave: ASk her out . .Hang out with her . . .Get to know her . .Can't make an omlet without breaking eggs!:trouble:Sorry if this is not of much help, but the best ideas are the most simple ones!
What exactly is the problem?????:wave: ASk her out . .Hang out with her . . .Get to know her . .Can't make an omlet without breaking eggs!:trouble:Sorry if this is not of much help, but the best ideas are the most simple ones!
First and most important tip: Calm the fvck down and get her off that pedestal your already putting her up on! You are saying how great she is in every way, and how not to "mess this one up"!
That is going to fvck you up badly, it will come across in your actions and her interest will decline. Remember that there are a number of guys in this world who have ditched her for whatever reason (i.e. ex's) - she is NOT perfect.
If you haven't made a move yet (asked her out, kissed her, more) do it asap. Then escalate until youre banging her. You already have strong attraction to her (she will sense it) - make a move soon or she will think you lack the confidence and her IL will plummet beyond retrieval.
That is going to fvck you up badly, it will come across in your actions and her interest will decline. Remember that there are a number of guys in this world who have ditched her for whatever reason (i.e. ex's) - she is NOT perfect.
If you haven't made a move yet (asked her out, kissed her, more) do it asap. Then escalate until youre banging her. You already have strong attraction to her (she will sense it) - make a move soon or she will think you lack the confidence and her IL will plummet beyond retrieval.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Lucas . . How right you are . . .This has to be the quote of the century!Lucas718 said:
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Well, seeing as how you REALLY care too much. You're going to get weird on her, because you're focusing too much. Then she's going to dump your freaky ass.
Are there any other girls you're interested in? Now would be a good time, seeing as how you already lost this one.
Are there any other girls you're interested in? Now would be a good time, seeing as how you already lost this one.
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GolfGuru said:
First and foremost DO NOT PUT YOUR HEAD UP HER ASS AND GET FVCKING CLINGY!
Be fun and a laid back fella.
Now. I assume from your name you're good with the clubs. How the fvck do I avoid slicing when I get to the back 9?
THE_ADDMAN
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send her a dozen roses and serenade her from outside her window before bed
Shiftkey
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Don't get oneitis. There are plenty of girls out there.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ace_McGregor
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Buy her an expensive gift to show her that you love her. If you get shy or nervous on the date put on a ski mask and tell her it's a "confidence mask".
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Also. It helps if you bring an icepick with you to go with the skimask. Just tell her its your "sexual stick". And proceed to make jabbing motions towards her.Ace_McGregor said:
This will really turn her on.
THE_ADDMAN
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Call_Me_Daddy said:
:crackup: "sexual stick"
bring a teddy bear, tell her he is your "mascot" and ask if "he can watch"
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.