I recently met a great girl. Fun, attractive, and emotionally stable. Her interest lvl toward me right now is very high. Things are fresh and I really don’t want to mess this one up. I’ve read the bible and most of the good tips on here. However, could I get some quick and to – the – points tips in not losing this girl/or her interest level. Any advice would greatly be appreciated!!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Don't want to mess this one up. Tips?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
WRX_is_like_SEX
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Dude . . .
What exactly is the problem?????:wave: ASk her out . .Hang out with her . . .Get to know her . .Can't make an omlet without breaking eggs!:trouble:Sorry if this is not of much help, but the best ideas are the most simple ones!
What exactly is the problem?????:wave: ASk her out . .Hang out with her . . .Get to know her . .Can't make an omlet without breaking eggs!:trouble:Sorry if this is not of much help, but the best ideas are the most simple ones!
First and most important tip: Calm the fvck down and get her off that pedestal your already putting her up on! You are saying how great she is in every way, and how not to "mess this one up"!
That is going to fvck you up badly, it will come across in your actions and her interest will decline. Remember that there are a number of guys in this world who have ditched her for whatever reason (i.e. ex's) - she is NOT perfect.
If you haven't made a move yet (asked her out, kissed her, more) do it asap. Then escalate until youre banging her. You already have strong attraction to her (she will sense it) - make a move soon or she will think you lack the confidence and her IL will plummet beyond retrieval.
That is going to fvck you up badly, it will come across in your actions and her interest will decline. Remember that there are a number of guys in this world who have ditched her for whatever reason (i.e. ex's) - she is NOT perfect.
If you haven't made a move yet (asked her out, kissed her, more) do it asap. Then escalate until youre banging her. You already have strong attraction to her (she will sense it) - make a move soon or she will think you lack the confidence and her IL will plummet beyond retrieval.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Lucas . . How right you are . . .This has to be the quote of the century!Lucas718 said:
Call_Me_Daddy
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Well, seeing as how you REALLY care too much. You're going to get weird on her, because you're focusing too much. Then she's going to dump your freaky ass.
Are there any other girls you're interested in? Now would be a good time, seeing as how you already lost this one.
Are there any other girls you're interested in? Now would be a good time, seeing as how you already lost this one.
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GolfGuru said:
First and foremost DO NOT PUT YOUR HEAD UP HER ASS AND GET FVCKING CLINGY!
Be fun and a laid back fella.
Now. I assume from your name you're good with the clubs. How the fvck do I avoid slicing when I get to the back 9?
THE_ADDMAN
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send her a dozen roses and serenade her from outside her window before bed
Shiftkey
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Don't get oneitis. There are plenty of girls out there.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ace_McGregor
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Buy her an expensive gift to show her that you love her. If you get shy or nervous on the date put on a ski mask and tell her it's a "confidence mask".
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Also. It helps if you bring an icepick with you to go with the skimask. Just tell her its your "sexual stick". And proceed to make jabbing motions towards her.Ace_McGregor said:
This will really turn her on.
THE_ADDMAN
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Call_Me_Daddy said:
:crackup: "sexual stick"
bring a teddy bear, tell her he is your "mascot" and ask if "he can watch"
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.