This has happened to me a lot recently and I'm going to tell you guys this from experience, don't wait to approach a girl once you see her. For instance, I saw Amanda afterschool after her swimming practice, which is rare and she was sitting there alone and even said "Hey" to me once. But I just kept pacing the hallways saying "I'll go up to Amanda when this or that happens, I'll go up to Amanda when it's this time or that time...". And you know what happened, I came back, Amanda's guyfriend was there and she left. So basically, I had the perfect oppurtunity to approach the girl, but I didn't take it and now I just freaking regret it. So basically, once you see a girl you want to approach, just go up there. Don't make excuses or wait when you see a girl you want to approach, go up there the second you see her. If she's with a guyfriend, forget about that approach her. And another way to get better at just going up there is, just say anything, don't wait and think about what to say, because by the time you've found your answer, she'll be gone.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Don't WAIT to approach the girl.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Yeah, we have to sort of put a mental count-down inside the mind to counter-act the paralysis of analysis.
Instead of analyzing the situation, it should be 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 take-off, once you get any tangible idea of what to do.
Sometimes 5 or even 3 seconds is not enough - but we have to prime our minds to count-down rather than analyze the situation and just do it.
Instead of analyzing the situation, it should be 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 take-off, once you get any tangible idea of what to do.
Sometimes 5 or even 3 seconds is not enough - but we have to prime our minds to count-down rather than analyze the situation and just do it.
Supremo
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Sometimes for me, even the 3-second rule wasn't enough for me to approach, esp. if it's a REALLY hot girl or a big group of *****-mode hotties.
What works best for me is to straight up go into seek-and-destroy mode and go for it RIGHT when you see it. No excuses.
But really, it's all about practice. After a while of the seek-and-destroy method you'll pretty much just not worry at all.
Practice, practice, practice.
What works best for me is to straight up go into seek-and-destroy mode and go for it RIGHT when you see it. No excuses.
But really, it's all about practice. After a while of the seek-and-destroy method you'll pretty much just not worry at all.
Practice, practice, practice.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Dude! I like what you just said.Nip/Tuck said:Rejection is always better than regret. Rejection will make you better off, since the more you do it the less it bothers you in the long run.
Being rejected means you tried and failed. Regret means you failed because you never tried...
I would take rejection every time because one of the times I ask, a girl is going to say yes.
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I agree with this but one thing that always throws me off is when they with a guy friend so my question is how do you approach a woman when she standing there with another guy.
any tips would be great but it think this is more a question about technique then confidence
any tips would be great but it think this is more a question about technique then confidence
hell695 said:I agree with this but one thing that always throws me off is when they with a guy friend so my question is how do you approach a woman when she standing there with another guy.
any tips would be great but it think this is more a question about technique then confidence
go up and talk to the guy, and throw negs at the girl, but just focus more to talking with the guy, and she'll be listening and slowly get interested..
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I prefer regret to rejection, with regret you can rationalise 'Well perhaps if I approached she'd have thought I was cool and I could have got her' but when you're rejected it just compounds and embeds the belief that the women have the power and you aren't good enough to get them.
As for waiting to approach, I usually wait and analyse the setting a little to know how I'll approach and with what body language, energy and angle. I like to visualise what will happen too. Seems to work well, my hook rate is good.
As for waiting to approach, I usually wait and analyse the setting a little to know how I'll approach and with what body language, energy and angle. I like to visualise what will happen too. Seems to work well, my hook rate is good.