Don't WAIT to approach the girl.

[ElStud]

This has happened to me a lot recently and I'm going to tell you guys this from experience, don't wait to approach a girl once you see her. For instance, I saw Amanda afterschool after her swimming practice, which is rare and she was sitting there alone and even said "Hey" to me once. But I just kept pacing the hallways saying "I'll go up to Amanda when this or that happens, I'll go up to Amanda when it's this time or that time...". And you know what happened, I came back, Amanda's guyfriend was there and she left. So basically, I had the perfect oppurtunity to approach the girl, but I didn't take it and now I just freaking regret it. So basically, once you see a girl you want to approach, just go up there. Don't make excuses or wait when you see a girl you want to approach, go up there the second you see her. If she's with a guyfriend, forget about that approach her. And another way to get better at just going up there is, just say anything, don't wait and think about what to say, because by the time you've found your answer, she'll be gone.

 

[HandyAndy]

Everyone knows this already, its called the 3 second rule.

 

[killbill]

elstud I agree man. ive missed alot of oppurtunities (sp) I do regret it but i know it makes me a better man cause ive learned from my mistakes.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Yeah, we have to sort of put a mental count-down inside the mind to counter-act the paralysis of analysis.

Instead of analyzing the situation, it should be 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 take-off, once you get any tangible idea of what to do.

Sometimes 5 or even 3 seconds is not enough - but we have to prime our minds to count-down rather than analyze the situation and just do it.

 

[Supremo]

Sometimes for me, even the 3-second rule wasn't enough for me to approach, esp. if it's a REALLY hot girl or a big group of *****-mode hotties.

What works best for me is to straight up go into seek-and-destroy mode and go for it RIGHT when you see it. No excuses.

But really, it's all about practice. After a while of the seek-and-destroy method you'll pretty much just not worry at all.

Practice, practice, practice.

 

[Nip/Tuck]

Rejection is always better than regret. Rejection will make you better off, since the more you do it the less it bothers you in the long run.

 

[Mr Autobahn]

Rejection is always better than regret. Rejection will make you better off, since the more you do it the less it bothers you in the long run.

Dude! I like what you just said.

Being rejected means you tried and failed. Regret means you failed because you never tried...

I would take rejection every time because one of the times I ask, a girl is going to say yes.

 

[jumpoff jorge]

word up

 

[hell695]

I agree with this but one thing that always throws me off is when they with a guy friend so my question is how do you approach a woman when she standing there with another guy.

any tips would be great but it think this is more a question about technique then confidence

 

[Fluid]

I agree with this but one thing that always throws me off is when they with a guy friend so my question is how do you approach a woman when she standing there with another guy.

any tips would be great but it think this is more a question about technique then confidence

go up and talk to the guy, and throw negs at the girl, but just focus more to talking with the guy, and she'll be listening and slowly get interested..

 

[Mad Manic]

I prefer regret to rejection, with regret you can rationalise 'Well perhaps if I approached she'd have thought I was cool and I could have got her' but when you're rejected it just compounds and embeds the belief that the women have the power and you aren't good enough to get them.

As for waiting to approach, I usually wait and analyse the setting a little to know how I'll approach and with what body language, energy and angle. I like to visualise what will happen too. Seems to work well, my hook rate is good.