Don't Use ****y & Funny Until You're Ready!!

[catch]

have you ever read about nlp???

its a form of psychology that is most usefull in this situation.
c&f is the frame of mind that your in, not a bunch of things to say, nlp can help you reach this mind set. put you in controll over your emotions ,
you can littrally controlle your frame of mind wether its funny confident creative happy ****y or whatever.

take some time to learn about yourself, your mind and you can improve your personality.
ANCHORS.. is apart of nlp that helps you to anchor a particular mindset, allowing you to turn a cirtain mindset on and off.. honestly its truly a benefit if your having trouble with the way you feel..
check out some sites, you can go to google and just type in nlp..
its a great help
catch

 

[slipstreamer83]

I think that PalmerTheCharmer is not discouraging practice at all with his thread. He says that you ony get C&F to work properly if you have the right attitude. I think he is right, we all know that you cannot make it work if you are not sure of what you are doing.

 

[PalmerTheCharmer]

Yea, thanks slipstreamer that is what I was talking about. I definitely advocate practising and perfecting stuff like this for sure, but with C&F its all about the mindset. If you are insecure or have self-doubt, you cannot possibly pull it off very well at all. You must first enter the right frame of mind by boosting your self-image and confidence before you can attempt to do it properly.

And catch, thanks a lot for that info. I will certainly check that out when I get a bit of time.

 

[MrCode]

I think the core of this tip is good and can be summarized as this (which disciple also mentioned): C&F is an attitude, not a technique.

In my own case I was already a bit C&F with my friends and family, and I just realized I could do it with women as well because I just needed to stop worrying about what they thought of me. I admit I still think conciously about it now and then, but overall it is natural and so far it has worked great for me. One thing that helps is my confidence is pretty high so I certainly don't have to fake the ****y part.

To help you guys turn this into an attitude, I'm cutting and pasting part of a post I made in the Mature Man forum:

How would you act if you knew, without any doubt, that the woman you were talking to wanted you badly, but you weren't quite sure if she was your type?

I can tell you: you would be relaxed, you would tease her and have fun, you would ask her qualifying questions to see if she is your type, and you wouldn't worry what she was thinking about you, because you already know she just loves you.

That is essentially the C&F attitude.

 

[BLUEox117]

sarcasm =C&F
naturally knowing sarcasm = gold